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21331. arkymalarky - 3/11/2007 7:01:10 AM Solicited (by virtue of the nature of your posts) advice:
Ulgine, I don't know what you're looking for here or when you smash china, but you're only going to find it when you turn inward and look from there outward onto the effect you have on the people around you, especially the ones you love most.
I say that from the perspective of one cursed with a vile temper--and a mate who has the same--which makes it hard for me to do what I advised you myself, but has made it possible to live with that man, my dearest friend and life partner, for 25 years and running. And it gets easier all the time. 21332. arkymalarky - 3/11/2007 7:05:15 AM Some things broken can't be put back together and are gone forever. Not much use in looking back. But that's not true of most things, and we may too easily give up on them, believing that they are beyond repair. It's very difficult to know the difference, however.
G'nite. 21333. wonkers2 - 3/11/2007 2:46:31 PM Arky, I was raised in Louisiana on Hank Williams. What you can find on YouTube is amazing. Many of the old songs. Must be they are off copyright?? Or somebody's ignoring the copyrights. 21334. arkymalarky - 3/11/2007 6:42:24 PM His son's probably staying too drunk to keep up. Unless he's cleaned up again since last I heard. 21335. wonkers2 - 3/11/2007 7:42:10 PM Too bad. Like father like son. Hank Sr. had a bit of a problem. Some say to relieve back pain. 21336. judithathome - 3/11/2007 11:31:42 PM There IS no Hank song for me...no surprise. Ha! 21337. judithathome - 3/11/2007 11:46:00 PM Arky, 21331 and 21332 are not only excellent advice but are beautifully written. 21338. alistairConnor - 3/12/2007 12:46:55 AM Ulgine, I'm sorry.
I'm not sure if I'm sorry he left, or if I'm sorry you still love him.
And your boy left with his father? What's going on? Is he OK? 21339. arkymalarky - 3/12/2007 1:08:43 AM Thank you, Judith. When someone keeps engaging in destructive behavior in your presence, even when it has nothing to do with you, you sometimes just get to the point where you feel like it's time to say something, whatever they end up doing about it. 21340. wonkers2 - 3/12/2007 1:16:33 AM For Judith with love from Hank 21341. wonkers2 - 3/12/2007 1:19:35 AM For Judith from Dooley 21342. Ms. No - 3/12/2007 10:48:30 AM Thoughtful,
Damn. I'm so sorry to hear about the fight your mother has ahead of her.
I tend to think of you as the resident nutrition buff, have you looked into the theories on the Alkaline Diet? My friend who had breast cancer a couple of years ago chose that route and has been very successful so far --- of course, even though we have treatments for cancer it's still much of a mystery why some people beat the odds and others are struck like lightning out of the blue.
I know very little other than what she explained to me about the theory of keeping the body slightly alkaline to discourage the growth of cancer cells, but it made a certain amount of sense and I figure it can't ever hurt to seek dietary help to aid other treatments.
My very best to your mother and your family. I'll be thinking of you. 21343. Magoseph - 3/12/2007 12:52:38 PM Hello, everyone--I just realized that daylight-saving time is in place. Let's see now if the Mote is on the same time. 21344. alistairconnor - 3/12/2007 12:54:38 PM Ha. The server is on New Zealand time, and doesn't know or care about your US daylight saving. 21345. Magoseph - 3/12/2007 12:55:49 PM Oh, well, I fixed my clock and it fits with your post's time/ 21346. thoughtful - 3/12/2007 5:55:26 PM Thanks, Pelle. I miss having your active participation as well.
Thanks Ms.No. I'd not heard about it but I will investigate. Can't hurt to try.
I really think part of why my mom is going through this is she's been on hormone replacement therapy for maybe 25 years. Estrogen has been determined to play a role in lung cancer so chances are it contributed to her getting cancer now as opposed to, say, in her 90s as her mother did. Mom has since quit the stuff and hopefully that will help slow the growth of the cancer that's left. 21347. thoughtful - 3/13/2007 5:46:16 PM Sometimes I hate people...why don't they just give you a straight answer.
Mother had me fax her biopsy report to her neighbor in FL who works at some lung clinic or other. She said, has anyone talked to your mother? Which immediately means, I'm not going to be the first one to tell her the bad news! She gave me NO information other than, I talked to one doctor and he said it doesn't look good...like what the hell is that suppposed to mean!
Then she proceeds to tell me how she went through the same thing with her father recently and how he died so quickly. Well that's helpful too. I have no idea if her father had the same stage of cancer or what. That response is neither hopeful nor helpful.
So I told her if there's anything she wants to tell me, she should just tell me. So she said, well, I want to talk to another doctor first.
Thank you very much.
I can take the bad news...I can take being told what to expect. What I can't take is hemming and hawing. Don't they realize regardless of if they say the words or not, it's not going to change the outcome? Don't they realize that whatever it is they don't want to say, we're going to have to LIVE through it...not just talk about it???
What is wrong with people?
21348. alistairconnor - 3/13/2007 6:17:26 PM Good grief. That's so stupid. If she's really been through the same thing with her father, surely she must realise how hurtful it is to you.
Some people get a thrill out of dramatizing things. 21349. wonkers2 - 3/13/2007 7:35:04 PM Many people are funny about discussing health issues. I have had health issues that I've discussed only with my wife. And I've had others that I've mentioned to our three children. Perhaps people worry that their relatives and friends reactions to them or relationships to them may change. Other people are only to ready to discuss all their health issues, major or minor, with whom ever is within earshot. 21350. wonkers2 - 3/13/2007 7:38:16 PM I had an aunt who died a couple of years ago at 101 who for years sent annual Christmas letters which consisted primarily of a recitation of her health problems from the preceding year. Although she was almost like a second mother to me, I reacted unfavorably to her habit of sharing her illnesses and hypochondria with everyone, and I'm disinclined to discuss my problems without a compelling reason to do so.
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