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21353. judithathome - 3/13/2007 9:40:11 PM Thoughtful, I'm torn about "hearing the worst and hearing it all" because we did hear the worst case scenario with my son and luckily, it was all shit...what they predicted was completely wrong.
He was in Stage 4 and at Thanksgiving, they said he might not last past Christmas...at Christmas, they said New Year's...and here we are, 35 years later with him still here.
What that information did was scare him and fix it in his mind so that every year, during that holiday season, he becomes depressed beyond belief.
Of course, back then the treatment he had was experimental so no one really knew what the result would be. But their prognosis was hedged heavily on the "worst case" side and it had the result of wrecking my marriage and plunging me into depression...his father, too...and wasn't helpful at all.
Not to compare what you and your mom are going through but sometimes, I think we'd have been better off had we been kept blissfully unaware. 21354. thoughtful - 3/13/2007 9:50:34 PM Well, as I said, some want to know and some don't. But mother and I want to know and will deal with the facts as we know them. But my larger point is, if someone wants to know, then medical personnel have an obligation to tell them and not pussyfoot around with, "has anyone else talked to you about this?" or "we can talk about that at our next meeting."
And frankly, while i'm miserable with the news, I'm delighted for as much warning as we've gotten as it means we still have time left to focus on appreciating each other and our relationship that much more, and not take the time we have left together for granted. 21355. judithathome - 3/13/2007 10:08:56 PM I'm delighted for as much warning as we've gotten as it means we still have time left to focus on appreciating each other and our relationship that much more, and not take the time we have left together for granted.
I think this is an excellent attitude and I wish you the very best with it... 21356. tmesis - 3/14/2007 2:22:41 PM thoughtful basically represents everything I've come to loathe in patients. 21357. tmesis - 3/14/2007 2:23:38 PM ... and their family members. 21358. alistairconnor - 3/14/2007 2:35:36 PM what, people who want to know what's going on?
Are you a "high priest" sort of doctor? 21359. tmesis - 3/14/2007 2:50:30 PM cf. 21286 and 21290 21360. alistairconnor - 3/14/2007 4:17:07 PM Thank you for being specific. Your post 21356 makes it sound like you loathe people who want to understand the diagnosis and life expectancy of themselves or their relatives.
Which is frankly weird.
But I'm sure you could be less cryptic and antipathetic if you wanted to. 21361. concerned - 3/14/2007 5:42:30 PM This is one reason I'm glad I'm not in the medical profession.
This isn't really germane to this discussion, but, in general, if the information could somehow be determined and made available, I wouldn't want to know the exact time I would die. Ideally, I would like to hear something such as that I would be alive and in decent health until such and such a time. That leaves a little open-endedness. 21362. thoughtful - 3/15/2007 8:42:30 PM tmesis, then i'm delighted you aren't my doctor.
thank you for your support. 21363. macnas - 3/16/2007 5:18:45 PM Hello motenaughts,
Everyone have the best St. Patricks day you can. 21364. TheWizardOfWhimsy - 3/16/2007 6:25:32 PM Thanks Macnas and a tip of the head to you as well!
21365. wonkers2 - 3/16/2007 11:37:03 PM I think tmesis must be a proctologist. 21366. alistairConnor - 3/17/2007 1:19:34 AM Eh Macnas, congratulations to your national cricket team, for its upset draw against Zimbabwe! 21367. macnas - 3/17/2007 2:02:48 AM We have a national cricket team?? 21368. arkymalarky - 3/17/2007 4:02:35 AM Hey Mac!
I'm glad StP's day is Saturday this year. I never remember to wear green. 21369. arkymalarky - 3/17/2007 4:03:06 AM And April Fool's is on a weekend too. Heheh. 21370. prolph - 3/17/2007 5:29:01 AM my birthday IS saint patricks day. guess why i was named patricia.there
must be an overload of patricias and patricks. i think i will not mind using up the 7s but i will be 79, 21371. arkymalarky - 3/17/2007 7:20:36 AM How cool! Hope you have a great birthday tomorrow! 21372. wonkers2 - 3/17/2007 3:25:53 PM Happy birthday, Patricia!
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