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24295. arkymalarky - 8/16/2008 4:51:30 PM Well, are you going? 24296. arkymalarky - 8/16/2008 5:04:18 PM I think my car ac will be paid for, but it's become a huge inconvenience and I'm miserable in it. Bob's car is not available because the clutch went out in his truck, so I'm stuck. The body shop is in Hot Springs and I'm going to have to take the car up, leave it, and pick it up Friday. I'll borrow Mom's car, but I'm driving mine until I drop it off Tuesday afternoon. I'm going to wait to see if it's fixed, then I'm going to give my own mechanic a check, even though he tried not to charge me for finding the leak (all he had to do was look under the car with a black light and he saw HONDA'S dye--gggrrrrrrr!), and I'm going to give the Honda service department a phone call.
This weekend Bob and I are picking up two exchange students from the airport, and next Saturday we're celebrating my parents' Golden wedding anniversary in Hot Springs. So the first week of school (it starts Monday) will seem like nothing but driving and running around that has nothing to do with school. I made a slide show for Mom and Dad yesterday, but I feel like it's slapped together. Mose was supposed to do it, but she passed it off to me. I got them reservations at a hotel for two nights, and the hot spring water is piped directly into their rooms. I got them an appointment for a full massage/hot bath treatment and got Mom a full facial. We're eating out with them Saturday night (at that German restaurant, Judith!) and I was going to show them the slide show then, just using a laptop. I can't figure out another way to do it, since we won't be where there's a tv or projector like we would at home.
We're not keeping the exchange students, btw, we're just picking them up and taking them to the people they'll be staying with. We talked about it, but this isn't a good year for us to do that. Next year should be, or even if someone comes in at semester or later. But we'll be helping out families who did take students in at my school. 24297. iiibbb - 8/16/2008 6:31:30 PM Yeah I'm going.
Life is still distracting. I wish my wife were trying harder to make things work than she is. We're leaving... we just need to work it out... but I feel she could be doing a lot more to make things happen. I feel like there is way too much weight on me right now.
It's a waiting game. First waiting for this job announcement from New England to finally surface. Then waiting for this fool election. That will be a moment of truth for sure. She's claiming she's heading to Canada if McCain wins. It may or may not be an idle threat. At any rate I don't want to go and I don't want to argue with her about it before we start making inroads about this New England job. She claims this is her dream job. She's built a lot of bridges to make it happen. I want to go there because my brother is up there. I've passed up two job announcements in a place we'd be happy living because she's told me that this job is so important to her. I swear if she throws this NE job in the can because of the outcome of an election I'm going to have serious doubts about my marriage. Right now I'm just in denial about it. I figure if she gets this job in NE she won't be able to back out of it even if McCain happens to win.
In addition, by going to Canada she's pulling the same move as she claimed I pulled on her coming here... except this time it'll be after she's established this as a totally horrible thing to do to a partner. I just can't fathom throwing so much away based on the outcome of an election. Not only that she's not exactly helping Obama win. She says she'd be more into helping except she hates this community. What a shitty attitute.
It wears on me. 24298. iiibbb - 8/16/2008 6:46:18 PM My wife really doesn't understand how depressed I am... but she's depressed too. I'm doing my best just to work through this all. It's all I know to do. 24299. iiibbb - 8/16/2008 6:50:09 PM I'm putting a lot of faith in the fact that once we're clear of this place she'll come back around. When we're elsewhere she does act herself.
I just don't understand how someone can be so negative about something that is so patently temporary. 24300. arkymalarky - 8/16/2008 8:17:56 PM Almost everyone I know, including my own husband, has said the same thing. He isn't going anywhere, and I'll bet none of our friends, nor your wife will either.
Hang in there--time's moving on and y'all will be relocated soon. 24301. judithathome - 8/16/2008 9:21:27 PM Arky, we have had our credit rating ruined by the dealership (they claim it was corporate that did it) submitting the check I left for them for the full amount of the car with the understanding they'd wait to submit until our check was in the bank...I called them throughout the week keeping them updated on the situation: the check to us wasn't mailed until YESTERDAY but my check was submitted to my bank last week! So there goes our "excellent" credit report for the next twenty years...ha! (I honestly believe it was corporate that did it because both Wayne and the finance guy understood our problem with the mail, etc.)
Wayne (our salesman) was mortified that it happened and I'm going to the bank on Monday to clarify how it occurred...I don't expect much sympathy from the bank OR from the dealership...they offered us financing on the spot and in retrospect, I wish to hell we'd taken their offer. Ah well...all will be fine by the end of this week and I blame the assholes at Prudential for refusing to do a wire transfer in the first place. This is OUR money, for cripe's sake!
Thankfully, this will never happen again...ha! 24302. judithathome - 8/16/2008 9:23:07 PM 3i3b, trust me, if people didn't move to Canada when they swore they would after the last two elections and after the past 8 years, they won't do it THIS time, either...just remind your wife that even if McCain wins, we still have Congress! 24303. thoughtful - 8/17/2008 1:13:36 PM Sorry, isbs, but it sounds like she's working your every nerve and pulling your strings. But remember, you can control your reactions to the situation.
By these notes, i'm guessing you've not gone for help. you need some, buddy, to help you gain perspective and replenish your tool kit for dealing with all the ambiguity. Please do yourself and your honey a favor by going. My recommendation is to look for someone who does cognitive behavioral therapy...they have a great track record esp. compared to others. 24304. arkymalarky - 8/17/2008 3:02:31 PM Man, that sucks, Judith! Hopefully they'll straighten everything out and it will go back the way it was.
We got in at 1:30 am last night. The Korean student knows almost no English and her bag was lost in Houston. She didn't sleep any last night, and I didn't sleep much. But today I called and they called right back and her bag is found. She is so happy. We left for Little Rock at 4:00 yesterday afternoon, and I've got to take the students to their host homes today.
I'm ready for school to start so I can get some rest. 24305. judithathome - 8/17/2008 11:25:51 PM Arky, I'm going to the bank in the morning to get it straightened out....I've calmed down considerably since that post....ha! 24306. judithathome - 8/18/2008 10:43:42 PM Check's here...overnighting a cashier's check tomorrow and already have the title so I'm good to go! 24307. arkymalarky - 8/18/2008 10:51:58 PM Good for you!
24308. judithathome - 8/22/2008 3:24:15 PM My car is all legally registered and has Texas plates (I got to keep the ones from the Jag and got new ones for Leslie) and is paid for...I am so pleased with this car!! And Leslie now owns the Jag...I just hope he's as pleased as I am when something goes wrong with his new car...ha!
Arky, when you see Ronnie, tell him we're thrilled with the car and that my BMW-owning friend is envious of the color AND the fact I have as many options as he does at a third of the price! 24309. arkymalarky - 8/23/2008 1:29:21 AM Terrific!
My car is going to be free, but I'm not getting it until tomorrow. 24310. judithathome - 8/27/2008 12:12:15 AM I drove to Dallas today for Leslie's follow-up appointment with the neurologist...he's been released to go back to work tomorrow! He was very impressed with my GPS all the way over there...
We had a great time: went to a Harley-Davidson dealership that has been featured on the Discovery Channel...saw some awesome custonm bikes. Went to lunch and had a great time with my son...he has a wicked sense of humor.
The doctor was smiling the entire appointment...he is so proud of the work he has done to make my kid better...and justifiably so!
Our favorite moment of the entire day: someone who had an appointment at the same medical facility had come in a 1955 baby blue Rolls Royce! It was a joy to see such a glorious automobile amongst the Porsches and Mercedes that pulled up...I'll never forget how beautiful that car looked in the sunshine. Although my car looked pretty damned good, I must say!
Leslie bought two Harley-Davidson decals for the front and back winshields of (now) HIS Jag...I just had to bite my tongue. ;-)
24311. judithathome - 8/27/2008 12:13:29 AM errata: custom 24312. thoughtful - 8/27/2008 11:10:28 PM I had the pleasure of sitting the driver's seat of a 1967 rolls...there's nothing quite like it...the smell of the leather, the long, long hood reaching out in front...amazing.
We go to cruise nights on occasion with our Jeep. Last weekend, the photographer happened to catch hubby eying that souped-up Model A...our jeep is the cranberry colored fender on the left.
 24313. Ms. No - 8/30/2008 12:57:06 AM Woo-frickin'-hoo!
Just got a job teaching Drama at a local high school! I find it funny that I'm going to be employed in a position that is generally really hard to find rather than as an English teacher which is so much more likely.
Anyway, I'm hyper as a chihuaha on crack right now and am off to spread the word, but wanted to drop my news here.
Wheeee!!!! 24314. arkymalarky - 8/30/2008 3:56:23 AM Oh man, that's FANTASTIC!
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