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18196. Magoseph - 1/12/2006 2:19:02 PM I only understood the last sentence, Pelle.
So i guess i'm trying to perfect how he's trying to perfect me, if you will.
Yep, thoughtful, that’s right and all you have to do, according to concerned, is to start perfecting your own diplomatic skills. “Did the smoke bother you, dear? Are you all right? I’m so, so sorry. What is it with me that I do things like that all the time?”
18197. Magoseph - 1/12/2006 2:23:49 PM Instead of my own style, " How could you? I told you, told you over and again not to...", and so on. 18198. Magoseph - 1/12/2006 2:59:17 PM Where is Mac? How is Mac? 18199. RickNelson - 1/12/2006 4:51:35 PM ahhhhhhhhhhh, such beautiful monikers. Such engaging and glorious personalities.
God I've missed yah. 18200. alistairconnor - 1/12/2006 5:07:09 PM Yo Rick! glad to see your name in print. How's the family? 18201. RickNelson - 1/12/2006 5:12:20 PM Been good alistair. My boy is like any sprout, just shooting up before me. Though I'm pretty dang tall, and he's a ways to go. I like this baby stage very much, and don't wish it to fly by, as you may recall.
We had one bought and fight with his first doctor, who disregarded taking antibiotics, and led to twenty days of futile suffering for my boy. I changed doctors, having to walk out on this one. I tried to get medicine at day 7, but was put of and down that it's not done. It's a bit of a story, and makes me mad as hell at them. Not that I wouldn't recount it.
But, all is swell.
18202. RickNelson - 1/12/2006 5:15:40 PM gotta get Jacob to daycare, see ya soon. 18203. alistairconnor - 1/12/2006 5:18:18 PM Take care Rick! 18204. arkymalarky - 1/13/2006 1:19:33 AM Great to see you Rick! Glad to hear everything's well! 18205. arkymalarky - 1/13/2006 1:42:37 AM VALIDATED! 18206. judithathome - 1/13/2006 2:21:45 AM Arky, I should have alerted you to this on Monday but if you have a chance, please watch the PBS program Country Boys...it's a heartbraking and heartwarming story of two boys in Kentucky who attended the Davis School in David, Kentucky for three years.
I would suggest anyone who is interested in rural schools watch it and learn from it. I was in tears throughout the entire 6 hours of this show.
Go to a PBS website and see if this show is available for teachers...it was done by Frontline. 18207. arkymalarky - 1/13/2006 5:22:40 AM Thanks for the heads up, Judith! I'll look for it. 18208. concerned - 1/13/2006 7:21:18 AM Re. 18195 -
You need not worry regarding my perception of your input.
18209. alistairconnor - 1/13/2006 10:25:57 AM Having read 18194 five or six times, I think we're on the same wavelength, Con. 18210. thoughtful - 1/13/2006 4:13:57 PM Not taking this banter seriously?
This is serious stuff.
Extremely serious stuff.
It's what marriage is made of.
I can remember being a young doe-eyed gal with the romantic equivalent of sugar plums dancing in her head about what love and marriage was going to be like. I was so certain my parents had it all wrong and my marriage would never ever ever be anything like theirs! How a normally rational child could justify in her own mind throwing out every data point she had in favor of some idyllic vision is beyond me. Blame it on hormones, innocence, stupidity. I shake my head in wonderment now. Right up there with that 12 year old still believing in santa claus.
18211. PelleNilsson - 1/13/2006 6:11:15 PM OK, thoughtful. Here is some serious stuff.
A marriage is not a game of one-upmanship. It is not a competition about which partner can "perfect" the other. It is a never-ending process of mutual adaption where one tries to recognize, accommodate and compensate for one's partner's weaknesses and do one's best to remedy one's own. Inevitably, acrimony will occur now and then, but there is no need to seek it out. Christina and I agreed long ago to ban the expression "I told you so!".
18212. thoughtful - 1/14/2006 12:56:32 AM See you completely misunderstand.
It is NOT a competition or one-upmanship.
It IS about banning the expression "I told you so"
But the way to ban that expression is by trying to teach each other from experience so that mistakes aren't made or repeated, and errors, injury and harm are prevented.
If we didn't care, we would say nothing and let the mistakes happen and then let each other deal with the consequences of their actions. But that to me is not what marriage is about.
And in terms of placing blame, that's why we have the cat. We blame him for anything that goes wrong. He doesn't seem to mind nor care.
Of course the cat also keeps our marriage together. Neither of us want to get stuck with him.
18213. PelleNilsson - 1/14/2006 9:55:03 AM The point I'm trying to make is that if you say "I told you so" to your husband it means, to my simple mind, that you have in fact told him and that he knows you have told him. Therefore, the phrase is superfluous as a means for "teaching the other". It serves only to mark that "I was right and you were wrong", something that was already obvious and does not need to be stated explicitly (unless your husband is extraordinarily dense). 18214. Magoseph - 1/14/2006 3:22:51 PM Good morning!
If your right arm is in a cast and you’re right-handed, you find that not only can’t you open prescription bottles with safety caps, but you also have trouble putting on a tee shirt, a sweater, trousers, and tying your shoe laces.
Anyway, we spent eight hours at the hospital Thursday and yesterday we went to town and let me tell you, it was too early for us to have such a nightmarish experience. I don’t know if it‘s the result of taking a strong pain killer, but Flex seemed to have forgotten I know how to drive and I also know how to shop.
18215. judithathome - 1/14/2006 5:30:45 PM The pain killers can definitely change one's personality. But after he has no more need for them, he'll turn back into the charming sweetheart you married. ;-)
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