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22232. judithathome - 7/11/2007 11:07:36 PM Actually, her mother always told her not to show her teeth when she smiled, since she was a little girl...even though she has beautiful teeth, just like Keoni. It was a cultural thing with her (Japanese) mom. We tried to get her to smile really big and she did, as she entered the hall and saw her groom..it was such an unusual sight, the entire group gathered there gasped out loud, so few of them has seen that smile before. 22233. Ulgine Barrows - 7/13/2007 9:52:26 AM Aaack! What are you all up to? Busy, busy, bees....I will have to scroll back and read all about it.
I hope you are all well, thriving, and eating the delicious greens of summer! 22234. arkymalarky - 7/13/2007 4:23:57 PM How sweet! What have you been up to?
We're going on a mountain walk this morning. Bob's been doing 3.5 miles and I'm doing half with him every day until we leave. I just now feel ready for it. I've been doing a stepper and a small exercise bike that we got here last year--it was on the side of the road with a "free" sign. It works great except the mile/calorie counter and looked brand new. The air is thin and I have been so out of shape, I hope I can go that far. 22235. arkymalarky - 7/13/2007 4:33:55 PM I type long posts to practice while I have reception, and I lost one in Politics yesterday. Infuriating. I wouldn't have retyped it if I could have.reception's spotty here, but in Nederland they don't have cellphone service at all. Gotta love it. 22236. TheWizardOfWhimsy - 7/13/2007 5:02:48 PM I got fooled by India-American and the Asian-American smiles; I wonder if it was a cultural thing or if it had to do with my past personal experiences. 22237. Ms. No - 7/19/2007 4:13:23 PM Wiz,
That sounds like the two that got me. When I went back and saw them again it was fairly obvious, but I think I was distracted by the sexual appeal of the one and then misled trying to read the epicanthic folds of the other. 22238. Ms. No - 7/19/2007 9:04:10 PM Everybody think good thoughts! Hopefully by this time next week the Hen House Debacle will be well and truly over, the property will be sold and I'll have recouped most of the financial loss incurred. The closing is scheduled for Monday and all we're waiting on now is an afidavit of canceled deed from the original note-holder.
Hell, who knows? By this time next year I might even be ready to talk to my father again! 22239. Magoseph - 7/20/2007 3:00:51 PM Congrats, Ms. No!
As soon as you have obtained the justice you deserve, you will be ready to talk to your dad because it is not in you to hold a grudge against someone you loved, still love, and will always love.
22240. jexster - 7/20/2007 3:52:39 PM This is funny!
and kinda amazing too
22241. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 4:36:35 PM Mago,
I don't know that I'll be ready to talk to him next week, but I do miss him and wonder how he is. At the same time, I have no idea where in the world we go from here.
It can't be made right so part of me wants to just never talk about it again. I mean, if it can't be made right, then what's the point in dwelling on it, you know?
He can't apologize and I can't believe him and yet, as you said, we're still family. We still love one another and so long as I never make the mistake of depending on him or taking risks for him then there really isn't any reason for us not to be in one another's lives.
bleh, families are strange. 22242. arkymalarky - 7/20/2007 5:09:09 PM Yes, they are. Easier said than done to let them go or let what they've done go. I'm so glad for you that you're getting the events wrapped up so at least you can do whatever you do without that over your head. 22243. arkymalarky - 7/20/2007 5:12:46 PM And cutting contact with a close family member is not necessarily about a grudge--it's emotional self-preservation. 22244. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 5:40:55 PM Yes. I didn't stop talking to him to punish him --- as far as I was concerned at the time there was no reason for me to believe that having me out of his life would be any kind of punishment at all.
I think that's what most of my dilemma is now. Yes, I miss him. That's a given, but I find myself wondering if I had all the facts and that's just a dangerous road to go down. There is still a very real part of me that just doesn't want to believe and until I can both believe the truth AND still want him in my life then I don't think I should talk to him.
Of course I may not be able to work that out on my own. 22245. concerned - 7/20/2007 6:06:32 PM If you don't communicate with him at all, then, IMO you are effectively perpetuating an inimical stance toward him. That doesn't mean you have to have him 'in your life'. 22246. jexster - 7/20/2007 6:48:09 PM 22228
Hubby'd best thank God I am a fag 22247. judithathome - 7/20/2007 8:48:44 PM Oh Jex...you've no idea. Wait til I post a pic of the father and brother of the bride.... 22248. judithathome - 7/20/2007 8:53:05 PM Wait...I think I misunderstood your post...surely you didn't mean......????? 22249. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 9:23:22 PM Con'd,
If I choose to contact him it will be with the intent of trying to establish some kind of future relationship, otherwise there'd be no reason to contact him at all. 22250. concerned - 7/20/2007 10:36:14 PM I'm just suggesting that you can establish an initial level of communication, etc. that is most comfortable for both of you and change it as time goes on. 22251. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 10:48:19 PM Assuming I'd be comfortable with any level of contact at all. ;-> As I said, the jury's still out on that one.
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