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Thoughtful, how's your mom?

23218. thoughtful - 12/19/2007 4:42:57 PM

Arky, thanks for asking.
She's fine so far. She's coming up today from FL. She passed her mammo and chest xray in Oct and is going for a body scan in Jan...hopefully they'll find nothing new.

We're in a wait n see mode which is not pleasant, but we have no choice, as is so often the case.

I'm not doing xmas this year though. No lights. No tree. We'll have dinner and exchange gifts, but I'm just not in a festive mood with so much of my family missing and so recently.

On top of that, hubby has a cold and now i've caught his. Feels like my nasal passages are on fire. Nice, eh?

And I'm actually on vacation, but I just spent the last hour doing year end work for work and I have more to come. So even the vacation isn't really....

I'm looking forward to a new year, because frankly 2007 sucked!

(Aren't you glad you asked???)

23219. arkymalarky - 12/20/2007 12:52:44 AM

Well, yes, I am! You've got every right to reflect on how bad this year's been for you and look forward to a new one!

I get finals done this week and start our two week breat Friday at 2:00. I didn't do anything Christmassy this year, either, because I was trying to see how all this heart test mess came out. Next year I'm going to celebrate every holiday, complete with decorations. My New Year's resolution is to claim 2008 as the year of Arky. But I'll share it with y'all! ;->

23220. arkymalarky - 12/20/2007 12:54:27 AM

And this will be your house-building year, which is very exciting. I still have such fond memories of mine, and the first year in it.

23221. iiibbb - 12/20/2007 1:16:31 AM

First, I appologize for being selfish. I have skimmed a little and know that people have their own problems right now and I sincerely hope they get better for you no matter what they are.

I am mired in my own... I am desperate for perspective, but I fear I am simply in a no-win situation and I am having a tought time with the burden of it all. What's worse is I feel guilty fro feeling burdened because in the grand scheme of things my life is a whole lot better than a lot of peoples and I really have nothing to complain about... but there are times where it's very hard to remember that.

I want to let you guys know about it, but I also feel a little weird about it. The partial anonymity I have with you guys allows me certain freedoms, but also requires a certain distance. I wonder if sharing with you is asking more than I give... I also wonder who's going to think it is no big deal.

However, some of you showed interest in my situation... and I need perspective and I need to release because I under so much pressure right now I am having major problems dealing with it at times.

Just so no one out there gets to worrying... I'm not so bad off I want to hurt anyone or myself... I'm just emotionally drained to the point that I can't buffer myself very well.

23222. iiibbb - 12/20/2007 1:16:45 AM

cont

23223. iiibbb - 12/20/2007 1:31:06 AM

I really want to talk to some of you guys... but I am worried that someone who knows me might read this stuff...

... I need to think about this more carefully...

Sorry for the buildup... it will probably wind up being spectacularly boring.... you don't deserve the melodrama... it is just your run-of-the-mill relationship-career-communication-clusterfuck. It has taken 12 months to tie these knots and they have gotten spectacularly tight.

23224. arkymalarky - 12/20/2007 3:08:58 AM

Hey, it's what it is to YOU that's important. When I was going through so much stress over all the rural activist work and then jumping into grad school right afterward so I'd have options if my district closed I know I probably annoyed Mote people both online and in email with my obsession. And I'd look around me at people irl I was working with who seemed to be doing so much more and being affected so much less it made me feel like a complete wienie. But they have paid their own price and we're just not all the same.

I can say this: whatever it is, you will get to the other side of it and handle whatever you take to the other side with you, good and bad. I sincerely didn't think I would, but I did. And all the time I felt like it wasn't important to others, but it was everything to me; and you can only say certain things to certain people--not that they're private, though they may be, but like you say, it's the way you get the perspectives you most need.

23225. arkymalarky - 12/20/2007 3:11:27 AM

Oh, and here's an email if you need it:

amalarky@yahoo.com

23226. wonkers2 - 12/20/2007 4:42:40 AM

Hang in there, pal!

23227. thoughtful - 12/20/2007 3:36:26 PM

IsBs, let it out. We're willing to listen and to add perspective if that will help you.

it is just your run-of-the-mill relationship-career-communication-clusterfuck

Hey, that's the stuff of life. Not easy to get through, especially without a little help from your friends. I know you had concerns about the move before you made it and it sounds like at least some of your fears have come true. We can't make decisions for you but we can help you perhaps prioritize and take a longer term view of your situation, which always helps. And perhaps we can add some new ideas or solutions which may help you fix some of the issues.

Don't feel you'll be overburdening us. Happy to help.

23228. judithathome - 12/20/2007 4:24:41 PM

Yes, it always helps to hear what others have done in similar situations...most of us here have had relationship-career-relocation problems and we could help you sort things out.

And I'm not so sure anyone who knows you would read our posts here...this is a fairly protected part of the internet. You really have to be looking for it to run across it.

23229. judithathome - 12/20/2007 4:29:57 PM

Keoni's son and his wife sent us the most gorgeous live wreath yesterday...the aroma of it is spectacular. It has balsam cedar and eucalyptus and beautiful red berries of some sort. I put it up on the front porch, right above the mailbox. It looks fabulous!

And it's the first live greenery we've had like that because Keoni is allergic to all pine, cedar, fir trees...when I opened the box (which was shipped from CostCo) I knew instantly it was "live" and told Keoni "Don't touch it!!" He said "How do you know it's real?" so I guess his sense of smell is going (ha!)...it filled the room with scent!

23230. jexster - 12/21/2007 12:51:49 AM

AC AC AC or Mago or any other alien type


A dispute has arisen for you to decide

The wine review terms such as "hint of blackberries with vanilla undertones" crap like that....are they unique to the Land of the Free and HOme of the Brave or are they used in the Jungle of Surrender Monkeys as well?

23231. judithathome - 12/21/2007 1:03:57 AM

You mean do the French use such flowery terms? I want to say "Mais oui" but will leave to Mago to answer.

23232. alistairconnor - 12/21/2007 1:26:45 AM

Certainly they are. They are, after all, technical terms founded in actual chemistry and stuff. Your semi-literate palate may not get the vanilla or the garrigue or the black truffle with a hint of fox piss, but the guys are not making shit up...

23233. jexster - 12/21/2007 1:57:55 AM

I win



AGAIN

23234. judithathome - 12/21/2007 2:45:01 AM

How so?

23235. jexster - 12/21/2007 2:58:11 AM

I've an asshole republican friend who grew up in Suisse came to America 30 years ago and never tires of putting down Americans, this time it was wine and spirit ads...Never say that in France

Of course, I knew otherwise and it is now authoritatively confirmed by a REAL FRENCH PERSON

Dr. John the Night Tripper
Gris Gris Man from N'awlins...circa 1970

23236. jexster - 12/21/2007 3:13:38 AM

zoo zoo mamou whichyo pigtail awun

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