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24107. judithathome - 5/24/2008 2:28:18 PM I finally lost it yesterday...Leslie came over to plant some stuff for me and I made him breakfast. We sat around and talked and he was very matter-of-fact discussing his cremation and such. After he left, I just broke down and was weepy all day.
I know it's a fact of life and it seems very practical of him to get things in order but it was extremely unsettling to me. 24108. robertjayb - 5/24/2008 3:55:34 PM A good son. And a brave one. You are rightfully proud. 24109. arkymalarky - 5/24/2008 4:17:15 PM I hope all goes well, and look forward to you posting on the other side of Leslie's surgery about his fast recovery. What day is his surgery scheduled? 24110. judithathome - 5/24/2008 5:05:38 PM We dont know for sure...the only thing we know is that it won't be next week but may be set up for the week after. 24111. judithathome - 5/25/2008 9:46:49 PM Arky, are y'all having the "bash" again this year? I hope so...we need a getaway! 24112. arkymalarky - 5/25/2008 11:22:50 PM Hey, y'all are welcome any time! I don't think we'll be having a planned get-together, but we can call in the usual suspects whenever y'all can come over. If y'all want to come at the usual end of July weekend, that would be great! 24114. magoseph - 5/26/2008 2:05:45 PM Wonks, your post is in now in American Politics. 24115. magoseph - 5/26/2008 2:07:01 PM Wonks, your post is now in American Politics.
24116. wonkers2 - 5/27/2008 12:08:07 AM Thanks. Did I put it in the wrong thread by mistake? sorry! 24117. judithathome - 5/28/2008 3:21:56 AM Arks, we'll be there, come hell or high water.
Leslie's new surgery is scheduled for June 6...D Day....definitly the day of a definitive future for him. 24118. arkymalarky - 5/28/2008 5:26:45 AM We'll be looking for you!
Bob and Mose and I send you all good vibes for the 6th! 24119. alistairconnor - 5/30/2008 12:43:15 PM shitshitshitshit
The road movie starts here. I'm taking the girlfriend's son (whom I refer to as my stepson, which is not technically true) to see his father in Barcelona.
I've been pushing for this for a couple of months. He has never seen his son, nor expressed any interest in him. Ever. But now, he's prepared to see him, have him stay for a while.
This is precipitated by a crisis between the boy and his mother. I have to get him out of the apartment in any case.
And I have to abandon my daughters for the weekend. I need to be careful about that. 24120. alistairconnor - 5/30/2008 12:43:56 PM If I get opportunities, I will post on this subject over the weekend. As a debrief and reality check. 24121. arkymalarky - 5/30/2008 3:50:27 PM Sounds sticky. Good luck. 24122. anomie - 5/30/2008 5:00:57 PM Yeah, AC. Sounds stick and tricky. I hope your girlfriend appreciates it. 24123. alistairConnor - 5/30/2008 9:30:38 PM Oh, girlfriend appreciates it. When things get tough she tells me I should get out, protect myself, protect my kids. I tell her I'm sticking to her, she's stuck with me.
We didn't go to Barcelona. He chickened out, said he's not ready to meet his father. I wonder if he ever will be. I spent a fairly torrid afternoon trying not to hit the little prick (and succeeding). 24124. anomie - 5/31/2008 1:33:25 AM Oh, and be careful pleasing the girlfriend too. My stepfather role was clouded by trying to please the wife/mother. She convinced me that a strong male spanking would do the trick. I never spanked my own kids, and I wish I'd never spanked hers. 24125. alistairconnor - 5/31/2008 1:18:57 PM Thanks, Anomie, for those wise words. I'm even more glad today that I didn't.
The aborted Barcelona trip has had some positive consequences, though. For one thing, the start of a dialog with his father. He has even promised to come to Lyon to see his son (I don't know how much that promise is worth).
But perhaps more importantly, we have learned about a major family history of bipolar disorder, or manic depression as they called it in less politically correct times.. The boy has several uncles and aunts who are pretty much disabled by it, and live with their elderly mother under heavy medication. Apparently it's a thing that manifests itself at adolescence, and can be treated at that stage. We will be learning a lot more about it, obviously.
I feel a lot less angry and a lot more optimistic now. 24126. judithathome - 5/31/2008 5:18:50 PM Well, it's good to know that might be the problem...just be aware that it may take several tries to get the correct medication he will HAVE to have for it. And I'd advise you get started on that task soon. 24127. jexster - 6/3/2008 8:24:17 PM My cousin just sent me a picture of our grandfather
Louis V. Pourciau
1889-1975
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