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25330. iiibbb - 5/29/2009 3:41:18 AM Still haven't sold the house yet. I am uncomfortable. This whole thing has been a saga. Our house should sell. We've had multiple, multiple walk throughs. The latest hangup... the lot next to ours had a foundation poured April-08. The house still isn't finished. The guy ran out of money. So the guy who was looking seriously at our house is still mulling it over because he's worried about the house next door. I spent the Friday before Mothers Day calling the homeonwers association, the current owner, the guy who built our house who wants to develop the next lot but is also worried about the unfinished house and wants to buy it to finish it but the guy who owns it can't be reached. This is all voodoo. The house is great. New... all hardwood floors... walking distance to campus... custom cabinets... huge rooms... tall ceilings. It's heads and shoulders above other houses in its price range. It doesn't make sense.
I'm in limbo because I've still got my residency there because the insurance company will get upset if the house is "vacant"... which will make the mortgage company upset...
The ray of sunshine was a job that was open at the local EPA lab for a research ecologist. They want a water quality person... I'm a pretty good fit by my estimation...
So I apply, but my application is rejected because according to the HR person who prefilters applications says I don't meet the minimum education standard which states that the applicant must hold a degree in biology or related science with 30 hours in applied biological sciences. These hours must include 9 hours of ecology and 12 hours of physical sciences and math.
I have 2 degrees in forestry and one in soil science... how is this possible? Well... according to the HR lady, Forestry is not an "applied biological science". In one fell swoop she has rendered all of my advanced education into a vocational degree. She won't take "silviculture" as a "ecology" course even though by most technical definitions it's "applied ecology". I sent her sylabuses from across the country... but she said that they needed to be from my school. I offered to send her letters from my professors describing the applied biolgical and ecological nature of my coursework, but she literally said she wasn't concerned with the academic definition of these terms. 25331. iiibbb - 5/29/2009 3:41:23 AM
Mind you... my wife, who holds stats degrees, is a Research Ecologist, and her HR person took all sorts of class my nimrod won't. Theoretically, it's up for appeal, but I bet it was circle filed.
The only silver lining is that the EPA lab has a history with this HR group and after seeing the list that they sent up, and having a peak at my transcripts, they decided not to fill it at all (fill it at a later date under multiple job titles)... so I will at least get another shot at it. Also they have post-docs which aren't scrutinized as much, so if I can get one of those I could get my foot in the door that way.
But this is all under the heading of absolutely nothing in my past 2 years being easy. It has been a morass.
uhg. 25332. iiibbb - 5/29/2009 3:44:21 AM I just want to cut the MS string... please... I can wait on the job thing. I've got a sailboat to fix up. I've got papers to work on pro bono.
What do I need to do to catch a break?
I'm trying not to complain... it could be worse, but holy mackerel... what am I being tested for? 25333. iiibbb - 5/29/2009 3:45:28 AM It's my 3rd anniversary today. That's a good thing... 25334. arkymalarky - 5/29/2009 4:17:04 AM Just imagine how all the people who are not leaving MS feel!
Congrats on the anniversary! Can't believe it's been 3 years! 25335. alistairconnor - 5/30/2009 12:50:09 PM iii, all the above comes under the category of "character forming". It's designed to make the rest of your life seem easy by comparison.
Congrats on the 3rd anniversary... many happy returns! 25336. iiibbb - 5/30/2009 1:21:44 PM I have character... that's what's annoying.
This comes under the heading of "Doing the right thing is no guarantee that you'll come out ahead"... or "life isn't fair".
Not that I expect life to be fair. My only expectation is that I do the right thing. I'm just tired of the whole exercise.
You are right that once things turn around, it is going to make me that much less likely to complain about other things going on.
Really, it's not so much the individual problems that bug me, it's the fact that I'm dealing in volume right now. Things will turn though an dI still have plenty to be thankful for... I was just venting. 25337. iiibbb - 5/30/2009 1:26:14 PM I'm sure that once I've finished my sailboat that I'll get a job :)
I picked up an old boat my dad had leaning against the house for the past 25 years. It's a 1973 Force 5 (similar to a laser). The fiberglass needs fixing in a few places, and the wood thwart and trunk were rotten. I've been fabricating new parts, and replacing some of the hardware. I should have it ready for the water by the end of next week. All for a few hundred bucks. 25338. iiibbb - 5/30/2009 1:28:23 PM I think I have 400 in the trailer and boat together. I'm sure the boat is worth more than that on Criagslist... 800-1000 I'd venture. 25339. arkymalarky - 5/30/2009 8:39:37 PM Took the girls horseback riding on the lake today and saw two or three sailboats. They're going swimming at Mom and Dad's pool tomorrow. Summer's here at last, tho I have to tie up a few loose ends at work still. 25340. judithathome - 5/31/2009 1:22:44 PM I hope your dad's pool is warmer than my neighbor's...their grandkids are still are getting "blue lips syndrome" every time they venture into it.
This has been the coldest spring ever. 25341. arkymalarky - 5/31/2009 6:24:17 PM I'd be surprised if they swam much. Mom and Dad just opened it up a couple of days ago and they haven't been in it yet. 25342. arkymalarky - 5/31/2009 6:25:32 PM Quite a few were skiing on the lake yesterday. 25343. alistairConnor - 6/6/2009 10:50:54 PM Younger daughter's 12th birthday today. She threw a party for a couple of dozen friends, most of them two years older than her, because she's ahead at school. My beloved girlfriend helped her with shopping, preparing food, setting up, etc, but it was my elder daughter, nearly 16, who ran the show.
And who behaved very badly towards my beloved and her son : arrogant, dismissive, condescending : they were both fuming mad, and I had to persuade them not to head back to town to their place.
I confronted the elder daughter about it, and she acknowledged that she found it impossible to get along with them. Two problems : she feels (wrongly) that I love them more than her, and she feels that they are insincere and manipulative.
I felt we were finally getting somewhere, I wanted to concentrate on the problems in my relationship with her, considering the others as innocent bystanders, but she kept coming back to them, explaining that she could never feel comfortable at home with those people around.
My beloved then intervened, disastrously, in the discussion, in anger and wounded pride. My daughter stormed out of the house, announcing that she wanted to go to her mother's. My beloved announced that she was going back to town with her son, asked me to return her keys, and said I could pick up my stuff on Monday.
Not a good weekend so far. 25344. alistairConnor - 6/6/2009 10:59:16 PM I've been thinking about this accusation of insincerity.
I've concluded that it's a cultural misunderstanding. My beloved and her son are of North African Arab culture. A certain amount of superficial insincerity is part of normal social intercourse, and tells one nothing about the fundamental honesty or fidelity of an individual. As it happens, my beloved is one of the most sincere people I know, constantly in trouble with her colleagues and bosses for saying what she really thinks, steadfast in friendship, solid as a rock.
And my daughter has judged her on her social graces. To make things worse, my ex-wife is a veritable fundamentalist of sincerity, so my daughter has unrealistically high ideals. I explained to her that it was all a misunderstanding, that to judge people on epidermic reactions to cultural differences like that is the very essence of racism. I hope she will sleep on that. 25345. arkymalarky - 6/7/2009 12:25:56 AM Sounds like a difficult time for all of you. Good luck navigating through it. 25346. macnas - 6/8/2009 12:37:20 PM Holy feck, I remembered my password!
25347. wabbit - 6/8/2009 1:32:45 PM Hey macnas!! How are you?! 25348. arkymalarky - 6/8/2009 1:34:16 PM Hey Mac! 25349. judithathome - 6/8/2009 1:35:01 PM Macnas, so glad you DID!
Alistair...that sounds like a very uncomfortable situation. Added to the fact your daughter is in the throes of hormonal surges and at an age of rebellion against parental oversight, she is also at the age where she thinks she absolutely knows everything there is to know about the world and nothing you can say will convince her otherwise. Also, I suspect there is a lot of jealousy of the "new kid" when she has been the princess of her daddy's eye all these many years.
It will take time but she WILL outgrow it. Hope it's in time to save your relationship.
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