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26067. iiibbb - 7/17/2010 12:22:11 PM He is the best baby... I feel fortunate. He is like that video about 90% of the time. He's only mad when he's hungry or tired. He sleeps through the night. He's laid back, and not easily startled. He smiles at EVERYONE. He's the kind of baby that fools people into having babies.
The rest of my life is still complicated.
- P's mom is out of the hospital after almost dieing in February falling down the stairs... however the stress of that and other things screwed up her dad (who probably has Alzheimer's).
- We thought we were going to sell the house this year, but the people were crazy about it's worth; in spite of the CMA's that said we were already below market. Couldn't find common ground... have to rent it another year... have to deal with crappy Realtor (who I'm not 100% sure I can do better than, but has 2 traits that rub me very raw). Wife washed her hands of this fiasco 12 months ago and butts in at random times about stuff that was decided months ago... then gets angry... which makes me angry because she told me to handle it so I am.
- Wife still has trouble with her job, although it has eased, her boss is still a pill. This isn't P's fault, and her boss is really out of line on a lot of things, but it's frustrating to have left a good job in a bad place to come to a job that was advertised as her dream job, but we can't put down roots hear either... and is relying on me to get the job that gets us out of here, but has placed a lot of timing and geographic limitations which is hard because I'm only so marketable.
- I did manage to get a part time job which will keep the gap filled in my resume... and I did earn a grant without the backing of an actual institution... but it's nothing I can actually make a career of (and don't want to).
- My wife is sleep deprived, which makes her irrational sometimes, which causes us to fight about the most assanine stuff... I get such mixed signals "you are better than most husbands and do more than most, but...." How can there be a "But" in that sentence. It bugs me that a lot of these arguments come from anger about things that are not controllable within an honest effort. I've tried not to ride her too much because she's under so much stress and gets no sleep, but it sucks when she erupts... in then says crazy stuff about how "this is not working" (which I have always challenged her on... she is prone to hyperbole).
- We're barely (actually not) making ends meet in spite of making way more than the median household. She lets these money issues stress her out, but is unwilling to make sacrifices. It was fine a year ago when we had float, but now we've had to ask her parents for the float, which they have no problem, but bugs the crap out of both of us.
Anyway... life is stressful as hell still... but holding together.
The boy might be a hellion for all I know compared to everything else going on. 26068. judithathome - 7/17/2010 4:18:57 PM Wish I could see the video....has to wait until we get a new computer!
I've been remiss about reporting on our evening with MsNo and MrsNo...we had a great visit and a spectacular meal...Italian...and I had too much of some spledid wine.
26069. Ms. No - 7/18/2010 4:36:22 PM Hey, you should be thrilled that you got me to DRINK wine, which I almost never do. I loved that Cabernet you brought.
Okay, don't get too excited or hopeful or anything because NOTHING can happen for at least a year, but I'm looking at Ft. Worth as a possible home.
I need to know more about where to live and not live, though. I suppose the thing to do would be to move there and rent until I got a better feel for the city and then find something to buy. Heck, if I did it in a year I wouldn't have a big enough down payment to buy so I suppose that's a moot issue.
But I do want to know about areas. I have the impression that West and North are the better choices, but what is the downtown area like? Do people live there? I'm not sure if I could live in burbs yet. I'm used to walking to everything and the pulse of the city around me -- small as Sacramento is. 26070. judithathome - 7/18/2010 9:07:24 PM You'll need a rich uncle to live downtown...though it's full of condos and such that make one want to poison that rich uncle sooner than later. ;-)
I'm prejudiced but I think the West Side is the only Side in town....
We have good friends in real estate...I'll be happy to get you in touch with them.
The West Side has areas that would suit you to a T! 26071. thoughtful - 7/19/2010 2:37:57 AM iiibbb what abeautiful little guy...really sweet.
so sorry about all the other stressors in your life.
do try to meditate...it has had a tremendous impact on my life.
how old is he???
my cousins have a new little one and I'm really quite worried about him...he's extremely docile, but makes very little eye contact with people...it's hard to get him to pay attention for any length of time ...not ever having had kids tho, i have no clue if his behavior is appropriate or not for his age... 26072. iiibbb - 7/19/2010 2:14:41 PM There are tons of reputable developmental milestones lists described on the internet. ... babycenter.com being the one that pops to mind.
B. was born in early January... he's basically 6 mo. Just figured out sitting yesterday (10 seconds repeatable).
We had a neighbor who had a baby with issues. My mom was ballsy enough to bring it up with them, and it put a real strain on their friendship because they were in denial. It's easy to be paranoid though because babies acquire skills at such a random order and rate.
The real scary one is that a baby can progress completely normal and then autism kicks in and they regress after age one or whatever.
If there's something wrong the pediatrician should be on top of it. 26073. judithathome - 7/19/2010 5:26:02 PM Babies DO progress at differing rates, too.
There's the old chestnut about a baby not speaking until he was two years old when he popped out with a completed sentence of "This tastes awful!" after being served some particular vegetable or other. The astonished parents looked at one another and said "Why hasn't he spoken before THIS?" and the baby replies "Everything has tasted fine up to now...."
26074. judithathome - 7/19/2010 5:28:30 PM Just got the video to work and I agree..he's an adorable little guy! Very alert in that he anticipates your doing the same motion again and again and he laughs because he's pleased to have trained you to do it over and over! ;-) 26075. Ms. No - 7/20/2010 7:01:04 PM What a cutie! 26076. iiibbb - 7/21/2010 2:11:47 AM We have a contract on our house!!! 26077. iiibbb - 7/21/2010 2:13:09 AM My mother in law also gave me a kindle today... a generous, belated birthday gift... too cool. 26078. arkymalarky - 7/21/2010 2:55:47 AM Congratulations! 26079. arkymalarky - 7/21/2010 2:56:26 AM Congratulations! 26080. thoughtful - 7/21/2010 2:28:45 PM Excellent!
We managed to sell my mom's house in FL in 2 days, no agent.
We managed to sell her condo in a month.
We've been very lucky....it's amazing when you put it to the universe, how it comes back to you.... 26081. judithathome - 7/21/2010 11:32:19 PM Well, today I am probably putting vile stuff into the universe and hoping it doesn't come back to me.
I'm in the foulest mood...something relatively foreign to me. 26082. thoughtful - 7/22/2010 2:17:37 PM why so? 26083. judithathome - 7/22/2010 5:02:33 PM I don't know...could be because Keoni's truck is in the shop and I'm trapped at home.
It's different than being here by choice. ;-) 26084. arkymalarky - 7/22/2010 5:25:37 PM Sorry Judith! Hope today's better.
We're leaving for FL Tues. Trying to get everything done in time. 26085. thoughtful - 7/23/2010 3:28:41 PM Opinions please...they are giving me an after work farewell party next week for my retirement.
Is it too weird if I read "the love song of j alfred prufrock"?
I mean there's so much in their that speaks to me and where I am in my life....counting out my life in coffee spoons....the footman holding my coat and snickering...wearing the bottoms of my trousers rolled...
wouldn't ts eliot say it much better than i ever could?
or is that just too weird.... 26086. arkymalarky - 7/23/2010 5:32:44 PM I don't think it's weird. I think about that poem lately as well, and instead of coffee spoons it little bits of paper, especially regarding rural education activisim, that I thought were so imprtant at the time which I sifted through and mostly threw away last summer.
However...it's very long, so could you possibly incorporate the most relevant lines to you throughout your speech where they fit?
And I know they must be sad as your friends and sad to lose such a competent person. I've told students things you've said here to help them understand complex economic issues and events that are important to them and to understanding the way history plays out.
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