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26239. iiibbb - 1/5/2011 2:00:22 PM ugh... wife was in a fender bender last night with the baby. Brain fart, pulled out of a parking lot right into someone. Everyone was fine, but geez.
Granted it shook her up, but I'm finding I am not sure what to do about my wife's tendency to fixate on the negative. It is inconvenient sure, but everyone is okay, and I can drive her around until the car gets fixed... but she is totally fixated on how much that "sucks" and that we don't have any money. Well... it is what it is. Adjust and move on.
She does it with other stresses as well...
I think it's because we've had to deal with a lot this year because I don't remember her being like this all the time. It bothers me because the sentiment bleeds into things it shouldn't and because she's unwilling to make certain adjustments because they're difficult (i.e she cut down her work hours to spend time with the baby, but she complains that we have no money, but we buy organic food and other "luxuries"). 26240. judithathome - 1/7/2011 7:15:41 PM Maybe her hormones are out of whack...that can really mess a person up mentally. It's why so many women go off the rails when menopause happens. Not that she's anywhere NEAR that but sometimes, after the baby comes, it takes awhile for hormones to regulate. 26241. arkymalarky - 1/7/2011 8:26:03 PM Stress over her test results can't help.
My hormones finally got normal when I got a hysterectomy. Before that they were always crazy. Lots of women are the opposite. 26242. arkymalarky - 1/7/2011 8:26:43 PM Opposite of me, that is. 26243. arkymalarky - 1/10/2011 5:15:50 AM no school tomorrow and probably not tues. We got 6" with a layer of ice in the middle. Electricity's out, but unlike years ago, we have cellsz with data plans. What'd y'all get, Judith? 26244. arkymalarky - 1/10/2011 5:41:54 AM Electricity's back, and life is good! 26245. Ms. No - 1/10/2011 7:24:11 AM Yeah, my mom was telling me that they were expecting snow, but I don't know if they actually got any.
We had sun today and even though it was still cold as hell, it seemed warmer. I was missing the sunlight something fierce! 26246. judithathome - 1/10/2011 7:13:45 PM We had snow for about two hours yesterday but it didn't stick because it had rained earler. It's 31° right now and may be icy out but you couldn't prove it by me...I'm staying in. 26247. arkymalarky - 1/10/2011 7:52:13 PM We ended up with over 7", second most here that I recall, and it's really beautiful. Wish the sun would come out. Mose and the SIL had a great play day and movie day yesterday. Bob and I just lounged around here. We've got a couple of light indoor projects for today. 26248. arkymalarky - 1/11/2011 12:58:02 AM Hey Wabit. Emailed you two or three days ago, but we're out until at least Wed. 26249. arkymalarky - 1/16/2011 5:42:19 AM Any news wrt your wife, 3I? 26250. iiibbb - 1/17/2011 8:05:25 PM Biopsy was not cancer, but they want to take the lumps out anyway as a precaution... this may interfere with nursing so she's resisting their pressure. She wants them to do a second biopsy first. Dr. wants to cut. She thinks they're getting smaller anyway. I don't think the Dr. is doing a good job communicating, and we've been spoiled lately by some drs who are willing to have a conversation and discuss the angles.
She totaled the car 2 weeks ago... we're shopping. Luckily her mom wants to buy us half of a new car for the baby. 26251. arkymalarky - 1/17/2011 9:01:02 PM Well, it sounds like things are starting to look up for y'all! Congrats on the good report. If it's not cancer, why can"t they cut after she's done breastfeedng? Even if their concern is for down the road, they should at least explain their urgency. 26252. iiibbb - 1/17/2011 9:13:44 PM Because even though it's a negative result they want the 2nd biopsy to be the removal.
It was sort of a high pressure sell... and I guess it's a CYA move in their part. 26253. judithathome - 1/18/2011 9:47:49 PM Does she have a history of breast cancer in her family? I can't believe they want removal if they are shown to be getting smaller... 26254. Ms. No - 1/19/2011 7:32:31 AM Especially if she's breast-feeding. All kinds of stuff going on in the ta-ta's when breast-feeding -- which is also shown to decrease the risk of breast cancer.
I'd definitely get a second opinion. 26255. iiibbb - 1/20/2011 1:51:05 AM Put a deposit down on a new car today. I have no idea if I made a good deal or not, but I think I did. I so hate the haggle process. 26256. PsychProf - 1/20/2011 6:04:08 PM iii
go to edmonds.com, compare price quote
26257. iiibbb - 1/20/2011 9:21:33 PM I did... it's close. 26258. wabbit - 1/23/2011 3:59:17 AM The weather in San Francisco was so wonderful, mid-sixties, sunshine...and I returned to more snow in Boston, with more in the forecast.
Mind you, I don't have any problem with winter and I like snow just fine. I just wish all those morons who think tailgating on an unplowed road because they didn't have the foresight to leave for work ten minutes earlier would take themselves out of the gene pool asap.
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