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26877. OhioSTOPAS - 4/13/2012 12:35:27 AM More for cat lovers:
Simon’s Cat 26878. OhioSTOPAS - 4/13/2012 12:35:50 AM Hey, Jen - Happy belated birthday! 26879. arkymalarky - 4/13/2012 12:59:42 AM Love it Jen!
I had a Siamese as a kid and one Christmas Bro got a train with a short track and plastic tunnel. Jasper was fascinated with the train and just sat and watched it go round and round and through the tunnel. He just couldn't figure the tunnel part out, so he straddled the track to look through the tunnel. As he was looking in the ttain hime its round, hitting him 26880. arkymalarky - 4/13/2012 1:01:36 AM Damn phone...
...hitting him in the ass, and he took s trip through the tunnel. 26881. Wombat - 4/13/2012 5:51:53 PM There is little that is funnier than seeing a cat get embarrassed. 26882. arkymalarky - 4/13/2012 10:33:08 PM Haha! Very true. Dogs don't seem to have that emotion often. 26883. wabbit - 4/17/2012 11:14:08 PM I remember seeing the first Simon's Cat clip and thinking, this guy actually has a cat.
Gotta love Henri, thanks for that Jen! He reminds me of one of my cats. 26884. Wombat - 4/29/2012 8:32:20 PM Wombette is headed for Quinnipiac University. Sent the deposit off on Friday. How to pay for the rest of it... 26885. wabbit - 4/29/2012 10:10:15 PM Cool, she'll meet PP! I just went past there a week ago on my way to the Met, saw the signs and thought of you, wondering whether Wombette had made a choice yet. 26886. arkymalarky - 4/29/2012 11:00:31 PM Yay! 26887. iiibbb - 5/1/2012 3:02:21 PM So it was my birthday yesterday.
I got a car. Well... I got the car my FiL can't drive because he has Alzheimer's. He was starting to run into things (there is a lot of evidence on the car that he'd started to make contact with things that are firm. He was also never good about maintenance. The brakes are completely shot.
Because it was so far out of date registration wise (according to the tow company) - it turned out it was easier to transfer the title to me and just let me take it out of state. I really need this car. My 16 yr old 200,000 mi Saturn is starting to have very regular problems and it can't handle the weekly interstate commute until the middle of summer
We're moving there this summer.
Anyway --- although there was a lucid point where he consented to give me the car, that can't be relied on. This week he noticed his car is gone and now he's not happy. It's already be transferred to me.
I feel guilty and I don't know why. I feel bad for my FiL - dementia has made him very irritable. He gets really nasty to my MiL, wife, and his son --- I have thusfar evaded his ire. Now I feel like I'm going to be seriously in the crosshairs.
...sigh...
at least I don't have to go this week. This might blow over with more time --- but then again it might not. He semi-accepts that the car was loaned to me because mine wasn't working, but I don't think he's really bought it. Definitely has forgotten that he agreed to give it to me.
I wonder if he'll notice the out-of-state plates when I return.
I guess I feel guilty because I feel like I bungled the exchange after finding out that the registration was still valid when the plates were surrendered he just hadn't put the stickers on in years - but didn't find that out until the deal was sealed. 26888. concerned - 5/1/2012 4:25:48 PM I have a suggestion that might help, but I'm pretty sure it would be taken wrongly. 26889. Wombat - 5/1/2012 4:29:45 PM Speaking as someone with a parent who suffers from dementia, don't worry about it. Make sure that someone in the family has a durable power of attorney, if your FiL is no longer capable of managing his affairs. Should also investigate what it would take to have him legally declared incapable, if you all haven't already done so. Just remember that in time he will forget, and it only gets worse. 26890. iiibbb - 5/1/2012 8:38:13 PM help and taken wrongly seems incongruous from the outset. If you can't pick words that says something helpful in a sensitive way, is it really that helpful?
MiL and wife have POAs. Dr has said he's not compitant to drive. It was right to take the car away. If he could get it running who knows what damage. There are a lot of recent dents from him hitting things. Plus the brakes were shot.
He is fixated on leaving. I think it's the fight or flight instinct. He can't remember a 2minute conversation, but has seemed to retain the fact the car wandered off and was replaced by mine "on loan".
Caught a bit, I am. 26891. concerned - 5/1/2012 9:06:14 PM Re. 26890 -
I think it could be very helpful, but you have to promise to take it as well meant advice beforehand, unless it obviously isn't when I post it. I'm a prime victim of the 'no good deed goes unpunished' maxim. 26892. Wombat - 5/1/2012 9:10:29 PM From what I've heard, some Alzheimer's sufferers like to wander in a seemingly aimless fashion. Some of the newer homes for Alzheimers are set up in such a way that the patients can wander, but never actually go anywhere, as the "course" is circular.
"Fortunately," my mom's form of dementia features physiological manifestations akin to Parkinsons', so other than some uncoordinated thrashing, she can't actually leave her bed. 26893. concerned - 5/1/2012 9:11:29 PM Here's an example at work, just over the last few months. I came up with a circuit idea improvement and spent several tens of hours simulating it, based on my boss's orders. However, I was still met with a lot of skepticism from other electronic engineers, so with my own money I bought the necessary parts and built and tested it in such a way that it was clear that it was at least as good as I claimed.
My reward? My boss then told me that he had commanded me not to build it, even though he had never said any such thing, and even though I spent a tenth of the time actually proving it's worth coimpared to all the time used by following his orders to simulate it over and over again.
This is the kind of thing I am talking about. 26894. iiibbb - 5/1/2012 9:19:37 PM seeing as we have an annonymous relationship con'd. you have little to fear. I'm pragmatic as well.
So other than being crtical of what I do in a no-win scenario... I doubt there's much you could say that would affect it much. 26895. concerned - 5/1/2012 9:23:22 PM Ok -
my idea is: why not knock a few dings out & get an inexpensive paint job in another color?
Then you might be able to get away with suggesting to your FiL that you liked his car so much that you got one just like it. 26896. iiibbb - 5/1/2012 9:24:25 PM I think he knows at some level something is wrong, and he wants to escape. He gets cabin fever something awful. He says he thinks he's fine. BiL lives there, but he can be best described as not helpful.
I stay in the house once a week for my current telecommutimg gig. We're moving in July... nevermind the stress of disrupting our careers to shoehorn this arrangement...
did i mention we're expecting now?
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