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28751. judithathome - 10/27/2015 11:01:57 PM Okay...my forum (and everyone elses) at ABLE MINDS seems to be down...I have a weird feeling it may be kaput forever....
If so, I am going to encourage the participants at that forum (or on mine, at least) to come over here...so...be looking for more action here if that comes to pass. 28752. arkymalarky - 10/28/2015 1:52:08 AM Hope some of them pop in. 28753. iiibbb - 10/29/2015 7:27:39 PM Been depressed lately.
Not sure what to do about it because not much there is to do about it. Too many fronts to causing me stress and it's affecting other things.
Don't feel like talking about it in general because I feel I've run out of people that want to hear about it. I feel like most of it due to some log jams and things will start to work out once these key items pan out. In the meantime I need to just wait for it to happen.
Probably the biggest of these is the process of my latest funding finally coming through. For various reasons it's been delayed and delayed some more. It's a drag. We bought a house based on the big jump in my income (not that we bought beyond our means, ends are basically meeting), but I want to be saving. I am just tired of waiting for it to happen.
I need to get my shit together.
28754. judithathome - 10/29/2015 7:55:50 PM Don't worry about the things you can't change physically...like when the money will arrive, etc. It's counter-productive to do that. And it won't change ANYTHING.
I met Dr. Wayne Dyer back in the late 60s and had read his book Your Erroneous Zones...in it, he suggested a technique for people who were worrying...set aside half an hour a day and do nothing but worry about one specific thing...at the end of the half hour, enter the dates and times on one page of the notebook and do that for 10 days.
At the end of 10 days, sit down with the notebook in hand and think about what has changed in the situation you were devoting all this time and effort to...and you will see NOTHING HAS CHANGED.
When I met him, I told him how much I learned from reading that suggestion....and then I asked him how many people actually DID the exercise...he laughed and laughed...winked at me and said "YOU got it! But you'd be AMAZED at how many people actually DID the entire exercise!"
28755. iiibbb - 10/29/2015 8:41:39 PM Intellectually I know what you're saying.
The problem is not with the rational side.
The real problem is that some of these things have been a month away from resolution for many months. All over things I can't control. For instance, we were awarded the grant almost a year ago. At first the contract was supposed to be settled by April, then May, then July, then August, now November is rolling around. Before that it was the same thing on the _decision_ about the award.
My wife has had similar jerks and starts on her own job.
I just don't have a lot of resilience about it... particularly when other fronts flare up. 28756. iiibbb - 10/29/2015 8:41:57 PM None of it is rational. 28757. arkymalarky - 10/29/2015 10:35:42 PM It's frustrating when people and situations make you have to put your life on hold. Moes and her husband are going through that with his PhD process. It will get better after December, but they're in limbo where they don't feel like they can start a family, buy a house, blah blah blah and she's kinda ready to settle into just a regular job and regular life. It was all new and exciting for a while, but that wears off well before it's done. 28758. iiibbb - 10/29/2015 10:54:31 PM Ultimately it is all tied to the fact that I am not on a hard position.
It's a fun job, I'm a great fit. But I don't know how long it will last.
I should be happier, but I get anxiety attacks... not enough to medicate over, but certainly enough that I have a hard time feeling good about good things. 28759. arkymalarky - 10/29/2015 11:51:51 PM There's no real certainty in life, of course, but we all feel a lot better when we're allowed to have the delusion of it with a "permanent" job. 28760. iiibbb - 10/30/2015 12:51:33 AM Again, intellectually I completely understand.
Anxiety attacks aren't based on rational thought processes and they have a nasty habit of poisoning other processes.
I'll upswing again.
Probably less to do with the permanence as the fits and starts about what the actual news is... and a dread that the news is never going to be in my favor. 28761. arkymalarky - 10/30/2015 1:08:01 AM Believe me, I understand anxiety attacks. I was plagued with them for years. Not much to do, because you can't reason through them. You just get through what's causing them. Don't know if you need it, but there is an app for that. And there some that work really well. 28762. arkymalarky - 10/30/2015 1:11:23 AM When my dad went to DC as a cryptanalyst for the NSA, he was really suffering from anxiety and panic attacks, but at the time nobody really knew what that stuff was. He of course thought he was dying, so he went to the doctor and he noticed the doctors sleeves were very worn at the elbows. He was telling him all about his symptoms, and all his issues, and the doctor, propped on his elbows, went sound asleep. Woke up, picked up right where he left off, and of course told Dad he was fine. The doctor had narcolepsy. 28763. judithathome - 10/30/2015 7:11:16 PM Believe it or not, my DENTIST had that! And he was my son's father-in-law so I just suffered through his exams...because he was the best ever...when he was awake. 28764. arkymalarky - 10/30/2015 11:38:10 PM Scary. How did he deal with drilling and filling teeth and stuff like that? 28765. judithathome - 10/31/2015 5:14:27 PM He'd only fall asleep in between tasks like that...while waiting for a mold to set, a shot to take effect, etc.
If he was honed in on an actual task, he was fine...I never related a long detailed story to him, that's for sure! 28766. arkymalarky - 11/1/2015 3:38:00 AM Made a cool owl Jack O'Lantern. Year 32, no kids to enjoy it. Oh well. 28767. judithathome - 11/1/2015 10:29:09 PM The Washington Post's Mensa Invitational invited readers to take any word from the dictionary, alter it by adding,
subtracting, or changing one letter, and then to supply a
new definition.
The winners:
Cashtration (n.): A procedure performed by the wife's
attorney during a divorce proceeding
Intaxicaton: Euphoria at getting a tax refund, which lasts until you realize it was your money to start with
Reintarnation: Coming back to life as a hillbilly
Bozone (n.): The substance surrounding stupid people that stops bright ideas from penetrating. The bozone layer,unfortunately, shows little sign of breaking down in the near future
Giraffiti: Vandalism spray-painted very,very high
Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it
Inoculatte: To take coffee intravenously when you are running late
Osteopornosis: A degenerate disease (This one gets extra credit)
Karmageddon: It's like, when everybody is sending off all these really bad vibes,right? And then, like, the Earth explodes and it's like, a serious bummer
Decafalon (n.): The grueling event of getting through the day consuming only things that are good for you
Glibido (n.): All talk and no action
Dopeler Effect: The tendency of stupid ideas to seem smarter when they come at you rapidly
Arachnoleptic Fit (n.): The frantic dance performed just after you've accidentally walked through a spider web
Beelzebug (n.): Satan in the form of a mosquito that gets into your bedroom at three in the morning and cannot be cast out
Caterpallor (n.): The color you turn after finding half a worm in the fruit you're eating
Frisbeetarianism (n.): The belief that after death the soul flies up onto the roof and gets stuck there
The Washington Post has also published the winning submissions to its yearly contest, in which readers are asked to supply
alternate meanings for common words. The winners:
Coffee, n. The person upon whom one coughs
Flabbergasted, adj. Appalled by discovering how much weight one has gained
Abdicate, v. To give up all hope of ever having a flat stomach
esplanade, v. To attempt an explanation while drunk
Negligent, adj. Absent-mindedly answering the door when wearing only a nightgown
Lymph, v. To walk with a lisp
Gargoyle, n. Olive-flavored mouthwash
Flatulence, n. Emergency vehicle that picks up someone who has been run over by a steamroller
Balderdash, n. A rapidly receding hairline
Rectitude, n. The formal, dignified bearing adopted by proctologists
Pokemon, n. A Rastafarian proctologist
Oyster, n. A person who sprinkles his conversation with Yiddishisms
Circumvent, n. An opening in the front of boxer shorts worn by Jewish men
28768. Ms. No - 11/3/2015 3:15:38 AM Those are great!! 28769. robertjayb - 11/5/2015 9:58:19 PM Bozone (n.): The substance surrounding stupid people that stops bright ideas from penetrating. The bozone layer,unfortunately, shows little sign of breaking down in the near future...
I like it. Should be useful in the political season. 28770. arkymalarky - 11/7/2015 5:24:50 AM Reintarnation must be what happened to me.
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