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15589. wonkers2 - 6/21/2005 10:21:19 PM And, besides that, he's a Republican! 15590. thoughtful - 6/21/2005 10:22:35 PM So sorry to hear that AC. And at the risk of sounding like a neil sedaca song, breaking up IS hard to do, especially after so many years of marriage.
My gf from when I was a wee one has invited us to her wedding on Sat...it's her second, the first one having lasted 24 years and 3 children.
They do say love is better the second time around... 15591. wonkers2 - 6/21/2005 10:28:17 PM Yes, AC, excuse me for being flippant. I hope it works out for the best for all concerned. 15592. judithathome - 6/21/2005 11:29:23 PM They do say love is better the second time around...
Alistair, I can attest to this and I'm sure Magoseph can, too. I was so young when I married the first time and my ex once told me he knew I was young but he thought he would have more say in how I turned out...fortunately, after 18 years and one child, I met a man who was thrilled, rather than dismayed, at how I turned out.
It may seem sad now but you two have had wonderful children together so all is not in vain and they should be the number one priority for you both, as I'm sure they are. Look on this as a passage in your lives, with a connecting cord, and both of you move on to the next stage in your lives.
15593. alistairConnor - 6/21/2005 11:42:48 PM Wise words Judith... In retrospect we hung on too long to a failed relationship, and all four of us suffered from it. The kids are alright, and the divorce is going better than the marriage did... we've learned a lot I'm sure.
Thanks for the flippancy, Wonk. 15594. arkymalarky - 6/22/2005 1:50:15 AM Wow, congrats, Thoughtful, on 27 years. Our next will be 22. We improved with time, thankfully, or we wouldn't have endured. Still, I know what you mean about the same stuff cropping up. One of my colleagues whose since moved on to other things had a Peanuts' poster in her classroom of Lucy in her typical arms-folded stance, with the caption, "Save time. See it my way." I always think of Bob and me when I see that poster. 15595. arkymalarky - 6/22/2005 1:51:59 AM That's a great metaphor, Judith. 15596. Macnas - 6/22/2005 8:16:29 AM Alistair, a chara na n-ŕrann, I hope everything goes well for you. 15597. Magoseph - 6/22/2005 12:03:43 PM …I can attest to this and I'm sure Magoseph can, too.
Yes, Judith, I certainly can.
Ali, I’m so very pleased to hear that everything is going so well—needless to say, I wish you the very, very best.
15598. Magoseph - 6/22/2005 3:08:50 PM Hey, Mote lurkers and regular posters check out the Mote Fiction thread—we have a Webfeet’s treat today!
15599. Magoseph - 6/22/2005 4:59:32 PM The lawn mower started well this morning. The person, who usually programs the water softener, the microwave oven, TVR remote, electric clocks, cell phones, computers, and whatnot in the house, did the job superbly, I must say--some people are expendable, others are indispensable, that’s all I’m saying. 15600. judithathome - 6/22/2005 7:20:50 PM Congrats on mastering the lawn mower, Magos! I'm sure Flexy realizes you are, indeed, indispensable. 15601. Neato - 6/23/2005 11:40:47 AM Alistair, I'm sorry about you and the missus calling it a day.
I have been in NZ for a wee while, caring for my mother, who is 83, and not too good, apart from her mind which is very good indeed. So I am beginning to think that maybe a bit of brain malfunction might be good along with the body's. 15602. Neato - 6/23/2005 1:09:43 PM Where are you shacking up, Alistair - in the newly renovated barn? 15603. arkymalarky - 6/23/2005 4:10:57 PM Hey Neato!
The ideal might well be for both to go at the same time. My grandmother's mind went before her body, and she was a challenge in the last few years of her life, especially the transition from home to "independent living" to a nursing home. She'd climb on the roof, hide stuff everywhere, imagine intruders, and she almost set her house on fire and could have killed someone with her car before my parents managed to get it away from her. 15604. alistairconnor - 6/23/2005 4:16:25 PM Sounds like you've been having a rough time with your mum, Neato... she's not going gently into that good night?
In the end I decided to stay in the main apartment of the moulin. I've bought it off the ex. (haven't paid her yet, seeing the bank on Tuesday). The first three months were the worst (And the second three months. They were the worst too!)
but I've come to quite enjoy being a part-time batchelor (and overrun by the kids on the weekend) 15605. Macnas - 6/23/2005 4:36:33 PM That's an interesting question, hypothical and all as it is: Where would I go if I had to break up with my Missus? (assuming she had not eviscerated me with a rusty shovel of course)
I suppose there is the obvious, go to my home place, but fond memories and all that I have of the place and everyone in it, I find it hard to spend more than an hour there anymore without feeling like I want to run away as fast as I can. So I dread to think what staying there would be like especially under the circumsances of a break up.
I don't know. A friend of mine who broke up with his wife lived in his car for 3 days, before he got the stones to go to his sisters place and beg a room. I'll never forget helping him colect his belongings from his (ex) house, I never saw anything so sad as his material goods and clothes in black plastic bags on the back seat.
Another fellow I know left the country and has never returned. He's in London, making a living but totally baseless.
I know it seems like the worse few months of your life alistair, but you sound like you have it together. 15606. jexster - 6/24/2005 1:14:48 AM Isn't she
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15607. arkymalarky - 6/24/2005 2:15:47 AM Sounds like a real wing-ding, Jex. Hope you have fun!
If I broke with Bob I would rent the itty-bittiest apartment I could find in the college town nearby and live with my dog. If Bob dies before me I will stay here. If I don't chicken out. 15608. Magoseph - 6/24/2005 10:15:41 AM It is nice to have Neato back--one of these days, I may have the courage to tell how my mother dealt with old age, but I'm not ready yet--still mourning, I guess.
Arky, that would be the ideal life for me too living near a college town--I did that for five years before I married Flexy. There was a place I remember with fondness—professors and students speaking foreign languages met twice a week—it was fun helping new arrivals accustom themselves to university life.
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