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16301. Magoseph - 8/25/2005 11:34:22 AM Hello, I plan to visit the new addition on my son's house one of these mornings (see new pictures in Good Life). Now, they can make plans for floor, ceiling, and furnishing.
As for the homefront, things are just fine because the water and electricity have been restored completely.
Best wishes to Jen's Mom.
Hey woden, nice to see you here.
Hello, Mac! 16302. Macnas - 8/25/2005 12:51:44 PM Hello Mago. 16303. Jenerator - 8/25/2005 5:24:35 PM Thanks all of you, I know that your well wishes will mean a lot to my mom.
She started experiencing some pain in January and that's when I told her she needed to get it checked out, She wouldn't. We almost performed an intervention in May because she was taking so many Tylenols and complaining of chronic pain and limited functioning. Again, she refused to go to the doctor. In June, I noticed that her right leg was visibly smaller than her left and expressed major concern. She blew it off and said that she'd see her doctor later.
By July, my husband and I demanded that she go and she finally acquiesced, but it took 6 weeks to get into the doctor.
he noticed that part of her spine had become unstable and that she had a severely pinched nerve and herniated disk. If she put off treatment, she would lose her leg and the ability to function from the waist down.
Was that a wake up call???
I am not entirely sure. She is having the surgery on Monday, which should alleviate the pain of the pinched nerve, but she has still expressed a dread about missing work!
Missing work??
We went out to lunch the day before yesterday and I picked her brain, I wanted to know why she was neglecting herself - both of her parents died because they did not get the medical help they needed. Did she want to be next?
Yes, I even laid some guilt on her explaining that she would be abandoning her grandbabies.
It all boiled down to some sort of weird guilt stemming from the work ethic pounded into her brain by her Depression surving parents. For them, sickness was weakness and only the truly sick should go to the doctor - not people with back pain, etc.
It was as if I had to convince her that she was not having elective or cosmetic surgery.
I hope that this down time will force her to relax and recover. What I mostly fear is that she will not allow for healing to take place, but will further damage herself by insisting on not following doctor's orders.
If only she knew how this made me, my husband and her friends feel. We all love her so much and feel so helpless over her obstinance in all of this. 16304. Macnas - 8/25/2005 6:00:43 PM Marshame, listen to your daughter.
16305. judithathome - 8/25/2005 7:16:52 PM Jen, knowing what your mom's work is, I can see why she would be reluctant to be indisposed but you simply HAVE to convince her how important it is to recover and do all the doctor says after the surgery. Uppermost in her mind should be physical therapy and tell her not to skimp on it.
If she goes ahead and ignores this stuff, she will end up in a wheelchair and unable to navigate...I'm serious; she really needs to get on this ASAP. 16306. Jenerator - 8/25/2005 7:48:53 PM Thanks Macnas.
Judith,
I totally and completely agree.
I just got back from lunch with her and we talked about it all. I asked her to promise that she would follow doctor's orders and she freely agreed. I then expressed my concern that she would get worse if she ignored tell-tale symptoms and pains during recovery. She agreed.
This may be manipulative, but I then directly asked her what her last wishes were if the surgery were to take an unexpected turn for the worse.
I think it got through to her. She went on and on for at least 30 minutes. It was nice to see her be real and to be concerned!
I think it may work out after all.
I'll let you all know on Tuesday how the surgery went. 16307. Magoseph - 8/25/2005 11:54:53 PM That would be great, Jen, to let us know how everything went.
Best of luck to you both. 16308. Ulgine Barrows - 8/26/2005 6:11:41 AM Jenerator, best wishes for your mom...she is a nurse, right? Worst patients behind doctors, IMO.
Stick to your guns on the hours you're putting in....alternate hours shouldn't have to mean decreased pay.
Drop the clubs to let them know you're serious....especially in the light of needing to find care for your own child.
That's what my priorities would be on the job & home fronts, at least, if I understand correctly that the clubs are pro-bone. I mean, pro bono. winky 16309. Ulgine Barrows - 8/26/2005 6:15:51 AM And since we are now switching to the all about me channel, I interviewed for a job yesterday and got rejected.
10000 applications for 400 jobs at a new WalMart in Oakland.
I'm screwed! 16310. Magoseph - 8/26/2005 9:26:09 AM Hey, Ulgine, still up? 16311. Ulgine Barrows - 8/26/2005 9:33:37 AM Magoseph! Yes, and you are too!
Providence smiles. 16312. Ulgine Barrows - 8/26/2005 9:50:23 AM If that was a stare-down, you won. 16313. Magoseph - 8/26/2005 9:51:24 AM I've been watching your progress around here between doing crossword puzzles.--I like the early morning hours. Such peace and silence, I can breathe and think. 16314. Magoseph - 8/26/2005 9:53:02 AM Also, it is when I answer my oversea e-mail correspondents. 16315. Ulgine Barrows - 8/26/2005 10:00:11 AM What did you learn during your watch? 16316. Magoseph - 8/26/2005 10:04:23 AM That you were wide-awake and very sharp as usual. Learned that my brother is much better. Figured out the NYT puzzle without googling for a change. There's more... 16317. Ulgine Barrows - 8/26/2005 10:07:31 AM My father-in-law is an early riser. Somehow he raised his son, my husband, to know that anyone that likes their sleep, is.....
suspect?
evil?
lazy?
tired?
They like me, I can tell. Why they can't sleep beyond noon, the perverts, is beyond me. 16318. Ulgine Barrows - 8/26/2005 10:09:57 AM Your brother is ill? 16319. Magoseph - 8/26/2005 10:15:03 AM Suspect, I'd say--because whoever likes to sleep until noon must want to escape something in his life, besides being lazy beyond words. 16320. Magoseph - 8/26/2005 10:20:13 AM He was taken to the hospital because he thought he was having a heart attack--turns out that he had nothing, except that he panicked and made himself sick. He is having a wonderful life these days--he who worked very hard to assure a happy and prosperous old age is in fear that death will deprive him of this wish. I think he should not worry all that much, considering that we have a bunch or relatives still living well into their nineties.
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