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18192. thoughtful - 1/12/2006 1:05:13 AM So i guess i'm trying to perfect how he's trying to perfect me, if you will. 18193. judithathome - 1/12/2006 2:07:11 AM Al is living the life of Reilly and not missing us at all... 18194. concerned - 1/12/2006 4:05:27 AM Actually, I wasn't thinking so much in terms of whether something is 'right' per se, because such a black and white judgment may be contextually restricted in many cases and if repeated tend to stifle initiative and feelings of self worth in those subjected to such summary judgments.
If a person thinks he or she has being right nailed, isn't that the perfect time to consciously start perfecting their own diplomatic skills? 18195. PelleNilsson - 1/12/2006 8:04:17 AM I hope nobody takes this banter seriously. 18196. Magoseph - 1/12/2006 2:19:02 PM I only understood the last sentence, Pelle.
So i guess i'm trying to perfect how he's trying to perfect me, if you will.
Yep, thoughtful, that’s right and all you have to do, according to concerned, is to start perfecting your own diplomatic skills. “Did the smoke bother you, dear? Are you all right? I’m so, so sorry. What is it with me that I do things like that all the time?”
18197. Magoseph - 1/12/2006 2:23:49 PM Instead of my own style, " How could you? I told you, told you over and again not to...", and so on. 18198. Magoseph - 1/12/2006 2:59:17 PM Where is Mac? How is Mac? 18199. RickNelson - 1/12/2006 4:51:35 PM ahhhhhhhhhhh, such beautiful monikers. Such engaging and glorious personalities.
God I've missed yah. 18200. alistairconnor - 1/12/2006 5:07:09 PM Yo Rick! glad to see your name in print. How's the family? 18201. RickNelson - 1/12/2006 5:12:20 PM Been good alistair. My boy is like any sprout, just shooting up before me. Though I'm pretty dang tall, and he's a ways to go. I like this baby stage very much, and don't wish it to fly by, as you may recall.
We had one bought and fight with his first doctor, who disregarded taking antibiotics, and led to twenty days of futile suffering for my boy. I changed doctors, having to walk out on this one. I tried to get medicine at day 7, but was put of and down that it's not done. It's a bit of a story, and makes me mad as hell at them. Not that I wouldn't recount it.
But, all is swell.
18202. RickNelson - 1/12/2006 5:15:40 PM gotta get Jacob to daycare, see ya soon. 18203. alistairconnor - 1/12/2006 5:18:18 PM Take care Rick! 18204. arkymalarky - 1/13/2006 1:19:33 AM Great to see you Rick! Glad to hear everything's well! 18205. arkymalarky - 1/13/2006 1:42:37 AM VALIDATED! 18206. judithathome - 1/13/2006 2:21:45 AM Arky, I should have alerted you to this on Monday but if you have a chance, please watch the PBS program Country Boys...it's a heartbraking and heartwarming story of two boys in Kentucky who attended the Davis School in David, Kentucky for three years.
I would suggest anyone who is interested in rural schools watch it and learn from it. I was in tears throughout the entire 6 hours of this show.
Go to a PBS website and see if this show is available for teachers...it was done by Frontline. 18207. arkymalarky - 1/13/2006 5:22:40 AM Thanks for the heads up, Judith! I'll look for it. 18208. concerned - 1/13/2006 7:21:18 AM Re. 18195 -
You need not worry regarding my perception of your input.
18209. alistairconnor - 1/13/2006 10:25:57 AM Having read 18194 five or six times, I think we're on the same wavelength, Con. 18210. thoughtful - 1/13/2006 4:13:57 PM Not taking this banter seriously?
This is serious stuff.
Extremely serious stuff.
It's what marriage is made of.
I can remember being a young doe-eyed gal with the romantic equivalent of sugar plums dancing in her head about what love and marriage was going to be like. I was so certain my parents had it all wrong and my marriage would never ever ever be anything like theirs! How a normally rational child could justify in her own mind throwing out every data point she had in favor of some idyllic vision is beyond me. Blame it on hormones, innocence, stupidity. I shake my head in wonderment now. Right up there with that 12 year old still believing in santa claus.
18211. PelleNilsson - 1/13/2006 6:11:15 PM OK, thoughtful. Here is some serious stuff.
A marriage is not a game of one-upmanship. It is not a competition about which partner can "perfect" the other. It is a never-ending process of mutual adaption where one tries to recognize, accommodate and compensate for one's partner's weaknesses and do one's best to remedy one's own. Inevitably, acrimony will occur now and then, but there is no need to seek it out. Christina and I agreed long ago to ban the expression "I told you so!".
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