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22239. Magoseph - 7/20/2007 3:00:51 PM Congrats, Ms. No!
As soon as you have obtained the justice you deserve, you will be ready to talk to your dad because it is not in you to hold a grudge against someone you loved, still love, and will always love.
22240. jexster - 7/20/2007 3:52:39 PM This is funny!
and kinda amazing too
22241. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 4:36:35 PM Mago,
I don't know that I'll be ready to talk to him next week, but I do miss him and wonder how he is. At the same time, I have no idea where in the world we go from here.
It can't be made right so part of me wants to just never talk about it again. I mean, if it can't be made right, then what's the point in dwelling on it, you know?
He can't apologize and I can't believe him and yet, as you said, we're still family. We still love one another and so long as I never make the mistake of depending on him or taking risks for him then there really isn't any reason for us not to be in one another's lives.
bleh, families are strange. 22242. arkymalarky - 7/20/2007 5:09:09 PM Yes, they are. Easier said than done to let them go or let what they've done go. I'm so glad for you that you're getting the events wrapped up so at least you can do whatever you do without that over your head. 22243. arkymalarky - 7/20/2007 5:12:46 PM And cutting contact with a close family member is not necessarily about a grudge--it's emotional self-preservation. 22244. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 5:40:55 PM Yes. I didn't stop talking to him to punish him --- as far as I was concerned at the time there was no reason for me to believe that having me out of his life would be any kind of punishment at all.
I think that's what most of my dilemma is now. Yes, I miss him. That's a given, but I find myself wondering if I had all the facts and that's just a dangerous road to go down. There is still a very real part of me that just doesn't want to believe and until I can both believe the truth AND still want him in my life then I don't think I should talk to him.
Of course I may not be able to work that out on my own. 22245. concerned - 7/20/2007 6:06:32 PM If you don't communicate with him at all, then, IMO you are effectively perpetuating an inimical stance toward him. That doesn't mean you have to have him 'in your life'. 22246. jexster - 7/20/2007 6:48:09 PM 22228
Hubby'd best thank God I am a fag 22247. judithathome - 7/20/2007 8:48:44 PM Oh Jex...you've no idea. Wait til I post a pic of the father and brother of the bride.... 22248. judithathome - 7/20/2007 8:53:05 PM Wait...I think I misunderstood your post...surely you didn't mean......????? 22249. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 9:23:22 PM Con'd,
If I choose to contact him it will be with the intent of trying to establish some kind of future relationship, otherwise there'd be no reason to contact him at all. 22250. concerned - 7/20/2007 10:36:14 PM I'm just suggesting that you can establish an initial level of communication, etc. that is most comfortable for both of you and change it as time goes on. 22251. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 10:48:19 PM Assuming I'd be comfortable with any level of contact at all. ;-> As I said, the jury's still out on that one. 22252. judithathome - 7/20/2007 11:06:57 PM Jex...here's something you might like:
 Father & Brother of the Bride 22253. judithathome - 7/20/2007 11:08:36 PM And one more:
 22254. Ms. No - 7/20/2007 11:29:32 PM What a fabulous looking family! 22255. judithathome - 7/20/2007 11:44:46 PM You should see my brothers-in-law! And they're single! 22256. judithathome - 7/20/2007 11:45:56 PM Trust me, you'd forget about Todd...hahahhahaha!! 22257. concerned - 7/21/2007 3:53:13 AM AFAIC, they do appear to have good teeth. Unless the old guy is wearing dentures. 22258. judithathome - 7/21/2007 12:52:31 PM Those are his teeth, Conn'd.
He may be balding but he will never be old.
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