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24030. anomie - 5/2/2008 10:49:37 PM So, what's hard to figure out about his race? Seems you got it figured. 24031. arkymalarky - 5/3/2008 1:30:37 AM Like a lot of other old people I know, I don't imagine he sounded so unreasonable 20 years ago. He's over 80. Plus, there are lots of valuable people in the world who say wacky shit.
Great to see you back, stunp!! 24032. robertjayb - 5/3/2008 2:47:31 AM Hey, arky...
Got storms? 24033. arkymalarky - 5/3/2008 3:16:15 AM Yes we did, as a matter of fact! Our prom is tonight, and a colleague was taking a couple of students from the high school building to the cafeteria, where the prom will be held, to see the decorations (they are AWESOME--no kidding), and as they headed out the door there was a tornado, still in the air, thankfully. So we all head off to the hall, to the immense irritation of the prom preparers and sponsors. It hit a couple of miles from the school, but fortunately didn't get any houses--just lots of trees. And the decorations got done in time, and Mose, who's a sponsor, called from there about thirty minutes ago and said it's a great success. 24034. arkymalarky - 5/3/2008 3:18:21 AM This is really not too uncommon a deal in our school in the last few years. Our global warming gas guzzling dollars at work, I guess. Five years ago a tornado warning was a rare and frightening thing. We're actually getting too complacent about them, imo. 24035. iiibbb - 5/3/2008 5:19:36 AM Hurricanes may become more prevalent with global warming, but tornadoes have been the same... at least according to the last thing I read. 24036. arkymalarky - 5/3/2008 2:01:45 PM I'm sure it varies place to place and time to time, but the last few years we've had more tornado warnings during school than all my other 20+ put together, for some reason. I do know from living in west TX that bad storms take consistent paths in various seasons--where the fronts track.
BTW, hang in there. Y'all are in a very transitional time because of your respective careers. It helps sometimes to get perspective from an objective source. Hope the Mote helps some in that regard. 24037. arkymalarky - 5/3/2008 2:07:19 PM We got a puppy-a male, cream/gray German shepard mix. I'm taking it to the vet today. Mose found EIGHT. We took one and one has been given away. The rest are at a friend's house near where we found them. They "caught" me checking on them for Mose and didn't recognize me, I guess, thought I'd dumped them and was evidently stupid enough to return to the scene of the crime, so he followed me home. We're helping them get rid of them, but I refuse to feel bad that they've got them and not us. We've certainly had more than our share of dumped dogs. We're trying to give them to students and my parents put an ad in the paper. I will put a card up at the vet when I take this one this morning.
What you have to look forward to when you're settled in your career and retirement planning instead of career planning, 3i3b:
Bob will not name his dog, I'm taking his dog to the vet, and I want him to come up with a name in the next thirty minutes or I'm going to name him whatever the hell I want. And I'm feeling very creative right now. 24038. arkymalarky - 5/3/2008 2:08:39 PM Bob's listening to Sirius on TV. The song "They Call Me the Breeze" just came on. Of course Bob said, "Just call him the breeze." I can't decide if he's funny, or just a jerk. 24039. judithathome - 5/3/2008 8:18:29 PM I love that name!! Breezy! 24040. judithathome - 5/3/2008 8:21:01 PM And hey, Stamper...howzit? Read back over my last few months of experience.(Not that many posts back...) Where ARE you now and how is Evie?
Tomorrow I enter my MediCare years and I must say, so far they've been treating me well. 24041. arkymalarky - 5/3/2008 9:47:50 PM We went to Jim's sister's art studio for his birthday today--hope you have a great birthday tomorrow!
And I wish I'd seen your post before heading to the vet--I named him Hobo. So now we have Hobo and Mojo and Mazie. 24042. wabbit - 5/4/2008 12:55:58 AM Hey all, good to see folks here. i3b3, I sure hope you can work things out. JaH, I must respectfully disagree about your salary thang, I think whoever has the most flexibility should defer to the one trying to get their foot in the door, especially when it looks like the salaries involved will ultimately both be pretty good. But that's just me.
Arky, all four of my cats are someone else's rejects. My oldest cat was dumped out of a car at about midnight in front of my house in NY the week before Thanksgiving. I heard a cat crying and went to my porch door, and she came charging, just happy to see anyone. It was fairly warm that night, luckily enough, so I put food and water out and figured if she was there the next morning, we'd see what was what. She had an enormous open wound on one hind leg (I guessed a ruptured abcess) and the muscle was separated down to the bone, but it was clean and not infected. I called the vet and got her some antibiotics and said her name was Stray Cat. By the time I took her in for a rabies shot a few weeks later, her name had morphed into Lumpenchat which became Chubba for the language impaired, and the vet folks were happy to make the change. The moral of the story is, if Hobo doesn't stick, go with whatever does.
But please, no Golden Balls. 24043. arkymalarky - 5/4/2008 1:20:30 AM Unfortunately, any reject cats are likely never to be known by us. They'd be eaten first. I'm allergic to cats, but we had outdoor cats when we first married and when Mose was little. We named one Spot, so Bob could say "Out damned Spot." He's so original.
Bob's view of dog names is similar to yours. We've had Stray Dog, Big Puppy, Puppy, and friends have named more. Mose named Gus and Scrappy and our neighbor named Sparky. We counted somewhere around 50 dogs we'd taken in, but that was a few years ago, and we've had at least three in the past three or four years. Judith may remember when we got Mojo, but I can't. She came up in the yard with what I thought was a botched tail-bobbing job, but the vet said it was torn off. It cost over $100 just to fix that. But she was a Mojo--she fits the name perfectly. She's evidently part Rottweiler, but she's very fun--an 80lb puppy.
Golden Balls? I won't show that one to Bob, or he'll head right for it. ;-)
How's your mom, btw? 24044. arkymalarky - 5/4/2008 1:24:02 AM We used to be good at giving stray dogs and puppies away. I guess it's a sign of tough times that we can't seem to get rid of these. 24045. wabbit - 5/4/2008 2:24:06 AM Oh, don't be fooled by Chubba's name. Most of my furchildren earn their names one way or another and end up with things like Woobus or Keevan or OohPah or The Grey Bean. Chubba was lucky. Golden Balls is an Irish racehorse unfortunately saddled with the nickname Posh gave to hubby David Beckham. He finished last in today's Woodford Reserve Turf Classic, the race just before the Kentucky Derby.
Mom is doing better, thanks. Still not up to par, but getting there. 24046. Ms. No - 5/4/2008 9:09:14 PM Happy Birthday Judith! 24047. thoughtful - 5/5/2008 6:30:07 PM Happy Bday Judithah!
I cracked up at this:
The moral of the story is, if Hobo doesn't stick, go with whatever does.
We had a dog that my mother named Hobo, but who could call him Hobo? The name that stuck was Opie. 24048. thoughtful - 5/5/2008 9:29:26 PM IsBs, I'm sorry you're going through all this distress. It's difficult from here as I don't have any first-hand knowledge of the people involved or the situation. However, it sounds to me like she's angry and she's angry with you...whether deserved or not, you're catching the blame for the situation, she's unhappy about it and she's going to fix it. Any attempt on your part to lay out options or provide more information will only be seen as an attempt by you to take control again, whether you are or not. She won't allow it as the last time, "you did take control and look where we ended up!" It sounds to me like she's angry enough that it's no longer about 'we' but about 'me'. Rightly or not, she feels she was being treated unfairly, and now she's getting back. You're being punished.
However, it seems to me also that career situations are critical to marital and financial happiness for both of you. This is a very tough situation and it would be best decided if you both could work together to achieve a common best solution. However, that is not going to happen with just the two of you in the picture. She's way too angry for that. This has gone beyond what's "best for us" to a power play.
My suggestion would be that the two of you need a safe, objective, 3rd party to help mediate and coach you both through this situation. Is there any way the two of you might discuss seeing a career counselor or other kind of counselor (do they have argument counselors???) who can at least keep the situation calm enough to lead to a fruitful discussion of all options involved? I mean, you're both in an unhappy mess, and you don't want to do anything for the wrong reasons that might just again put you both in another unhappy situation. Someone outside the marriage may be able to help both of you cut through and put aside the emotions around this issue and help you deal with the objective options you face.
I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. Life choices are hard, especially when there are two disparate careers and geographies involved. Especially when there's so much at stake and imperfect information with which to make a decision.
Hang tough, kiddo. 24049. judithathome - 5/6/2008 5:29:12 AM Leslie called me around 3pm today on the way to the ER. When I got there, he was checking in and they did chest xray, ECG, and CT scan...the (very buff) ECG guy let it slip that it looked like a myocardial infarction (sp?) and Leslie nearly lost it because he considers his heart about the only thing that works in his body any more.
So three hours later, they decided it was a mild TIA...which makes his 12th one. Those and 2 major strokes...he knows the symptoms and kept telling them it was that...TIA is Trans Ischemic something...not nearly as bad as a stroke and sometimes you can have them and not even know it.
The reason he went on to the ER is because he'd called his neurosurgeon and when the doctor called him back, he said he could tell by Leslie's speech patterns (slurring his words) that he was having something and urged him to go straight to the ER.
So he's fine now and is going to work tomorrow. We were both just so relieved it wasn't his heart!
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