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25693. alistairConnor - 9/29/2009 11:15:07 PM Well I've been there too Dube. Five years I've been divorced, it was pretty bad for a while, but it got better, and it still gets better every day.
(I thought at the time that that my wife made a big mistake for herself. I no longer think so, but I suspect that she does. Too bad.)
Today is a momentous day for me, gut wrenching. Having the certainty that I'm actually going to sell my house is a lot different from merely deciding to sell it. I've had it for twenty years, near enough, and it's a large chunk of my identity. This is it (just in case one of you folks wants to buy it...) 25694. vonKreedon - 9/29/2009 11:39:18 PM AC - Am I reading the description of the grounds correctly to say that there's a trout stream? Stables? A stone bridge at the end of the property? Wish I had beaucoup bucks (pardon my French), looks and sounds really nice. 25695. Dubai Vol - 9/30/2009 2:39:21 AM Yeah, AC, that does sound very nice; are you sure you are asking enough? Sounds kinda cheap to me (not that I can afford it myself! :) 25696. Ms. No - 9/30/2009 6:23:20 AM Glad to hear the good news, sorry to hear the bad.
Hang in there DVol. 25697. alistairconnor - 9/30/2009 10:15:57 AM Yes it is as you describe, vK (though I converted the stables into a studio apartment).
And yes DV, it is kinda cheap... the agent persuaded me to price it under € 300k, psychological barrier etc, but it's worth 400k to the right buyer. I've got another potential buyer to see this evening, who contacted me directly. If I can sell it to him, that would save 20k or so in agent's fee.
I'm convinced that I'll never have a house I like so well, because I won't be able to afford it.
But perhaps my girlfriend will buy me one. 25698. iiibbb - 9/30/2009 3:14:37 PM I'm glad our house was never home. I've left places I've loved twice... it's no fun. 25699. arkymalarky - 9/30/2009 3:32:40 PM I don't intend to do it again. The prospect of leaving a workplace I love is killing me as it is. I'm not moving unless I fall out of love with where I am or I'm forced out.
Hope all goes as smoothly as possible, Dubai. 25700. Dubai Vol - 9/30/2009 5:44:33 PM Thanks all. I've re-booked my flight for Friday, will be going back to my aunt and uncle in Kingsport. Emotionally, I'm in bad shape, that 'things are going to be this bad forever' feeling. Intellectually I can tell myself that's not true, but it doesn't help right now. I do appreciate the kind thoughts though. 25701. Ms. No - 10/1/2009 5:25:07 AM It's the "one day at a time" strategy that seems to work best for me when the world gets overwhelming. 25702. vonKreedon - 10/1/2009 10:55:32 PM I've handed off my first set of content, attended my last meeting of the week and am getting ready for a long weekend of vacation cabining to celebrate my wife's 50th birthday! Whoo-hoo! 25703. arkymalarky - 10/2/2009 1:13:10 AM Oh, cool! Happy birthday to your wife! Hope y'all have a great weekend! 25704. arkymalarky - 10/2/2009 3:59:10 AM A front of sorts was really pounding us earlier, and I don't have a headache! Other than the first week after surgery, I've only had one, which Bob thinks is a first since he's known me (30 years). I can also bend over without misery for the first time in forever. I'm taking a yoga class starting in November. When I told my doc I wanted the sinus surgery I told her I never felt good--ever. Now I don't think about it. I feel fine all the time unless something specific is bugging me. Allergies are still there, but the unrelenting pressure and just generally feeling like crap 24/7 are gone. 25705. Ms. No - 10/2/2009 7:01:30 AM That's so wonderful to hear! 25706. Dubai Vol - 10/2/2009 12:21:50 PM Said goodbye to my wife this morning. We both cried, and hugged. Every fiber of my being says this is just wrong. Strangely enough, I feel better after telling her the things I've been rehearsing in my mind since Tuesday. Mostly soppy stuff. I told her she is my lobster, for example. Obscure? The flight back leaves in 8 hours, and it will be brutal. Fifteen hours nonstop Dubai to Atlanta, in a middle seat. The flight is actually overbooked, but I am checked in online and have my boarding pass printed. Now just wondering if there is going to be trouble over the saber in my luggage. German cavalry ca 1870, stamped "Solingen Luneschlosse" a fine piece of steel.
What, you don't travel with your saber? 25707. arkymalarky - 10/2/2009 1:21:46 PM Thanks No! Spoke too soon on the headache--woke up with one, but still the rest of the good stuff and the reduced frequency of the headaches makes the surgery WAY worth it. 25708. arkymalarky - 10/2/2009 1:24:15 PM Oh, man, Dubai. I really feel for both of you. Don't know what to say, but I hope things go well for you back here in the states. 25709. arkymalarky - 10/2/2009 1:52:43 PM obituary 25710. arkymalarky - 10/3/2009 10:16:43 PM Judith, gotta tell you--we should have gone to visit this summer--Jim said he and two friends of his were the only white people at the service, but it was the largest he'd ever seen. He said at least 75 people were standing outside the church. He's here now trying to keep his tears back. He was really close to her for a lot of years. 25711. wabbit - 10/4/2009 12:48:36 AM Arky, did you know this woman? Can you tell us about her? The obit leaves so much out. 25712. arkymalarky - 10/4/2009 1:18:02 AM I didn't, but our good friend (who just left) knew her well. I should have at least met her, and Jim always wanted to take us to visit her, but we never did just make a plan and do it. We're not neighborly with anybody around here, really, so we'd be dropping in on someone who didn't know us. Of course Bob's family knew her, but more his grandparents, who were dead before Bob and I met.
She's one of those amazing, independent, enduring rural people who lived through so many changes without ever really reacting or changing herself in response to any of them.
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