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25938. judithathome - 4/21/2010 5:27:24 PM Moving to a new place is considered to be one of the most stressful things one can do in life...it's right up there with divorce and a death in the family.
I always wondered about how that worked for military families...until I became one and it got to be a regular occurance.
Now I sort of miss it...it's a great way to rid yourself of "baggage", that stuff we let pile up and weight us down, thinking we just can't live without that junk. We can...and should...
25939. alistairConnor - 4/21/2010 7:54:03 PM Judith, I would never have moved in with that woman if I had known how much stuff she owned! (only joking... only just!)
i took four days off work to move, and I've never worked so hard in my life. Borrowed a big van from neighbours in the country -- very handy, though not easy to park, and smells strongly of horse. 25940. magoseph - 4/29/2010 6:34:23 PM Hello, Ali, Mac and Marj! 25941. iiibbb - 5/1/2010 4:15:26 AM Sorry I've been away. Too much to bother you guys with it
Baby born jan 7, he's great although we spent the first three months trying to deal with weight gain and saving P's milk. That was plenty by itself.
But her mom almost died after a fall down the stairs a couple of months ago. Probably leaves the hospital next week and thanks to some miracles will still be herself minus 1 kidney and two cardiac arrests.
I am still out of work, but we've started looking elsewhere. This job P moved for has been a real 180. Her boss is crazy... Long story... What a mess. I hate the pressure of feeling like I have to get us out of here.
Back spasms are back from all the stress.
Have dentist phobia, but really need to see one soon. Phobias are wierd things. I am a very rational person who does very irrational things when it comes to dental stuff. I need to make myself go through with this and I know there will be issues. Yuck.
Happy birthday to me (it is my BD).
I wish the house down south would sell.
I want a calm life back. The past 3 years have been enough... But the past 3 months, ugg 25942. iiibbb - 5/1/2010 4:16:00 AM Please 25943. iiibbb - 5/1/2010 9:01:10 AM Please 25944. magoseph - 5/1/2010 4:11:34 PM happy birthday, iiibbb! here we support you online because we know you have the fortitude to be a terrific husband and father to your darlings.
here is my gift for you--from now on this thread you answer me in lower case when we communicate to each other. 25945. arkymalarky - 5/1/2010 5:22:49 PM Hey Mags! Glad to see you back! How's things?
3I, All I know to say is sorry things have been so rough, and hang in there. Some dentists advertise for phobics.
I've had good times at work and home, but got really busy and then was sick for a month. Just now starting to feel pretty good, tho still tired. And I'm way behind. 25946. arkymalarky - 5/1/2010 5:23:40 PM Oh, and happy birthday 3i! 25947. wabbit - 5/1/2010 6:17:24 PM Happy Birthday, iiibbb! Fingers crossed for you that everything will smooth out very soon. 25948. arkymalarky - 5/1/2010 7:02:29 PM Wabbit! You handy? 25949. magoseph - 5/1/2010 10:01:11 PM arky, ask wabbit to call me at my home phone, please. Judith will give it to you. 25950. magoseph - 5/1/2010 10:02:59 PM ...that is if I can find her...
25951. arkymalarky - 5/1/2010 11:36:45 PM You need to email her, Mags. 25952. arkymalarky - 5/1/2010 11:36:46 PM You need to email her, Mags. 25953. iiibbb - 5/2/2010 4:34:15 AM Thanks for the support.
I hate that I feel like I'm complaining all the time. It was never my m.o. before. It's a bit of a revelation that sometimes life drags you places. However, anytime I take a step back I know things could be a lot worse than they are.
Part of it is that my wife and I are different in the amount of hedging we do. I typically hedge a lot; she generally trusts that things will happen.
She's right that I worry too much, but she also knows that when things get dicey I am generally pretty cool headed. She is not this way. I told her this is because I've already lived most situations 100 times in my head.
The stress is getting to me though... her job situation has been a real kick in the teeth. Between taking care of the kid (who is awesome beyond awesome)... applying to jobs... trying to keep up with old work... and trying to pursue some local opportunities as if I weren't planning to leave soon.
I don't have enough time in the day to deal with it all. It's crazy. I'm really tired a lot of the time.
It has to get better sometime though... I don't know how it can't. 25954. arkymalarky - 5/2/2010 4:11:25 PM Well, I had an inspiring post but lost it. Enjoy your son. The stress drags along, but childhood flies by. When you can't stand it, grab him up and go do something fun and free. It's all new stuff to him and that makes it more fun to you. Some of my best childhood memories are when we were poorest, my dad was busiest, and my mom was in a state mental hospital. 25955. judithathome - 5/2/2010 6:45:34 PM Hey, Mags...whatcha been up to?
Arky, my memories are the same as yours but my mom stayed home. ;-) 25956. thoughtful - 5/2/2010 8:45:18 PM I've been sorely tempted to stop here looking for support as my life has gone on serious overload when it comes to stress and distress and heartbreak, but I've stopped myself as I kept recalling all the seemingly unprovoked attacks that ended up in silence between myself and other posters. And then the banning of jex when he was one of the only ones around here keeping this place alive, which took out wonks too. I've lurked a few times only to find it as dead as a doornail in here. So afraid that I'll get myself banned as well for some unknown issue. Just more complications that my full catastrophe life doesn't need.
But in case anyone is willing to offer a sympathetic ear without argument, i could fill you in.....
nah...nevermind, that's unlikely to happen...someone will accuse me of arrogance in misinterpreting my complaints as saying i'm the only one with problems or someone else will find my complaints trivial and me weak willed or someone will become "helpful" to my situation by really being critical of my actions and choices or someone will use what I tell as an opening to attack me....
nope. not worth it. I'll go crawl back in my hole.
happy spring everyone 25957. wabbit - 5/2/2010 9:13:34 PM Thoughtful, I've wondered (in the Good Life thread) how you were doing and how the house came out. I have missed your photos of your morning walks.
I'm not willing to get into the whole Jexster thing again, it's like dredging up the specter of CalGal.
Wonkers stops by from time to time, as do most of us. I know the Mote, like most small discussion groups, is very VERY slow, but I think it's a combination of the novelty having worn off and going back to in-person life. Maybe that's just me. I still value being able to come here and see the names that are here, even those who are here very rarely now.
If you feel like venting or talking, please post. I bet I'm far from the only one who has been thinking of you and would be willing to listen. Even if it were solicited, I'm sure I would have no helpful advice, but I'm a willing ear nevertheless.
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