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26905. iiibbb - 5/6/2012 3:28:30 PM I wish could appreciate it more.
P's job is being very aloof about whether/how her job will continue after we move in July. Now they're saying they're going to let her go (they had previously said they could keep the job going for a year.... then 6 months....) now they're not even being that up front about whether they'll be able to contract work.
I so hope those motherfuckers get screwed if they can't make something work. There are a plethora of analyses only she can do to write the reports they need - and yet they are hanging her out to dry.
Last week her boss was trying to act like P's been threatening to leave since she started the job - when in fact she's said that since I've been having trouble finding work she wasn't sure. I waited as long as I dared; and they collectively knew I was having trouble. Her boss was even threatening to fire her after the first baby. It's f'ing rediculous.
Now my wife just went out the door laying a heavy load of guilt on me because she's "the only one getting screwed".
I can't take this shit. I'm not exactly sitting on easy street... I'm in a term job with no guarantees struggling with family issues and haven't had the energy to work as hard as I could be working.
When I'm there I'm dealing with the job and getting the inlaws and dealing with my FiL
When I'm home I'm picking up a huge amount of slack trying to watch the boy and make up for the fact she was a pregnant single mother for a couple of nights.
She's running herself into the ground trying to do quality work for her employers and they don't deserve it... but she is still woefully passive about how they treat her because she doesn't want to make waves.
I so hope those motherfuckers regret losing her when they do. They do not know --- what's sad is they may never care because they will probably be content doing it wrong. 26906. arkymalarky - 5/6/2012 3:52:41 PM Don't know what to say except hang in there. Work stresses and transitions and uncertainty are stressful enough without family issues on top of them. Employers don't value their good people enough in lean times. I spent much of my career in a teaching shortage. Now teachers are treated like dirt in lots of places. But there will be famine again for employers and they'll just wish for the talent pool they're pushing out of the profession today. 26907. thoughtful - 5/7/2012 4:24:15 AM Isbs, congrats on the new one to come.
Seems to be there are quite a number of things that have been difficult in your life and it seems you are always catching hell for it, even if you have nothing to do with it.
Remember only you can make yourself feel guilty about something. If you choose not to participate then you won't.
Time to meditate and get in touch with your authentic self. We are spirits having a human experience which necessarily includes death, illness and suffering. We need to remember the past and not let it control us...celebrate the present as it is all we have...reimagine the future as it is how we fulfill our destiny.
Namaste. 26908. iiibbb - 5/7/2012 6:40:03 PM My son is probably the only thing that really makes me happy right now.
My wife would be too, but she's all tied up in work depression and pregnancy.
My MiL is remarkable in her capacity to absorb this stuff, but she's not a nexus.
I feel like I'm taking it from all ends - and typically I have quite a capacity for this stuff - but it's coming non stop.
It is almost a moral imperative for me to keep my shit together, but I am dropping balls everywhere and I feel like a pretender.
I am not looking forward to going to the inlaws this week--- B is apparently having some real fits about the car situation.
Logically I still have no problem having it... my car was on the brink... his car the brakes were shot, there was no coolant in it, and it's got tons of dings in it from B probably hitting things.
I'm so going to get yelled at when I get there, and I'm not sure if thanking him is going to appease him.
26909. judithathome - 5/7/2012 7:50:40 PM Maybe you should parek a street over and just walk to his house....out of sight, etc. 26910. iiibbb - 5/7/2012 7:53:23 PM Thought about it...
... basically planning to pack light and bring my stuff in after he goes to bed just in case he demands I leave and MiL can't calm him down. 26911. thoughtful - 5/9/2012 1:45:11 PM Try not to anticipate too much as it will wear you down before you even get there. Don't re-live the past and don't pre-live the future, but stay in the now...it's a lot easier to take it one day at a time than many days, past and future, all at once.
Visits with MIL were always like an alfred hitchcock movie...no matter what I expected, there'd always be a surprise ending. I could simply not predict and had to take what came. 26912. iiibbb - 5/10/2012 12:27:03 AM good advice. My propensity to do that is a blessing and curse 26913. Wombat - 5/11/2012 4:28:35 PM Wombette college update (for those who care). Ithaca College contacted her yesterday and informed her that there was an opening in their BS/DPT combined program. Although Ithaca was her first choice, she wrote them off after she didn't get into the combined program. Lots of pros and cons to consider between Ithaca and Quinnipiac. 26914. vonKreedon - 5/11/2012 4:51:38 PM BS/DPT, sounds like a set of childhood vaccines.[;-} Congrats on having the choices. 26915. Wombat - 5/11/2012 7:10:44 PM Actually, it could an abbreviation for anti-vaccine cranks. 26916. judithathome - 5/13/2012 9:54:36 PM Since this is Mother's Day, I'd like to wish all the mothers out there a happy one and share this bit of history with you...the first Mother's Day was actually a proclamation for peace. Take a look:
Julia Ward Howe's Procalamation For Peace...the first "Mother's Day" 26917. arkymalarky - 5/14/2012 1:51:25 AM Happy Mothers Day to all the moms here. 26918. webfeet - 5/16/2012 10:50:18 PM Oh my gawd! How joieful to see the mote back and running. I love you all. Honestly. Missed you! Hey alistair so adorable of you to be continuing this.
Generator, army, thoughtful, Judith. This is so weird. That's Arky, not army. I am writing.on my sons iPad and it changes everything. Quel ennuie.
You are all, like, alive. How terrific. I'm alive, too. 26919. arkymalarky - 5/16/2012 11:14:19 PM Hey Webfeet! Great to see you! 26920. msgreer - 5/19/2012 3:40:16 AM Inspiration to Start Your day: "It's time that you say no out of love versus yes out of fear." - Suze Orman
I may not be a big Suzy Orman fan but this quote rings true for me.
I have fought this for so long..and it's not just a love thing. It is learning to say no...not out of fear but because it is how I feel. A bit of honest reflection. 26921. arkymalarky - 5/19/2012 3:53:06 AM I agree. 26922. msgreer - 5/19/2012 4:38:11 AM Thanks, Arky. It is good to know I am not alone on this.
26923. msgreer - 5/19/2012 4:41:22 AM Hey webfeet..isn't it comforting to type in www.themote.com and find that your friends are not only still here..they welcome you back with love and sincerity. 26924. Wombat - 5/19/2012 4:44:05 PM Wombette's prom was last night. Three surprises: she went, she had a date (reasonably housetrained), and she appears to have enjoyed herself. She traditionally does not like mob scenes with loud music, hates dressing up, and has shown no apparent interest in boys other than as chums (her date was a pal from theater tech crew, so that holds up).
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