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28509. Iiibbb - 2/22/2015 8:35:01 PM My MiL almost died, and a dr told us she wouldn't make it. She's 99% minus a kidney. We made the right call in that case. In this case the tissue death is obvious, but we still got more than one dr to say that there is no hope for meaningful recovery.
Long story short. Don't trust them, make sure they are communicating, write it all down, call them out on imprecisellanguag, call them out on mixed messages. 28510. Iiibbb - 2/22/2015 8:35:41 PM My MiL almost died, and a dr told us she wouldn't make it. She's 99% minus a kidney. We made the right call in that case. In this case the tissue death is obvious, but we still got more than one dr to say that there is no hope for meaningful recovery.
Long story short. Don't trust them, make sure they are communicating, write it all down, call them out on imprecisellanguag, call them out on mixed messages. 28511. judithathome - 2/22/2015 10:55:15 PM I have been there, 3I3b...my (48 year old) son had a stroke (one of many he had had in the years since receiving experimental chemo for Hodgkins at age 10....) and even though he had signed a DNR at that hospital, SOMEONE didn't notice and he was put on life support...I threw a fit and meanwhile, his father stepped in and refused to let him go.
Trust me, I don't mean to be blunt but when you step up and give the okay, you will not only understand but SEE that it was for the best.
Ask for a specialist to check his brain function (as I see you may have already done)...listen to what that person has to say.
I asked for an MRI and two more tests...and thank you, Dr. Lincoln Chen for convincing my son's father that his son was gone....something I knew but could not convince the man of.... 28512. iiibbb - 2/23/2015 3:49:03 PM I'm probably going to adjust my medical POA to focus on brain function 28513. judithathome - 2/23/2015 9:48:16 PM Thinking of you today, 3i3b... 28514. robertjayb - 2/23/2015 11:52:11 PM Me too. I overruled my sister to sit with my father the night he died and have always been glad that I did. But don't hang the crepe just yet. 28515. robertjayb - 2/23/2015 11:53:32 PM Got ice, judith? Watch your step. 28516. Iiibbb - 2/24/2015 1:57:11 AM He passed w/in two hours of comfort only decision. Perfectly played in my mind 28517. arkymalarky - 2/24/2015 3:08:22 AM I'm sorry. I'll be thinking of you and your family. 28518. thoughtful - 2/24/2015 3:23:42 PM So sorry, IsBs. My deepest sympathies. 28519. alistairconnor - 2/24/2015 7:41:39 PM Sorry to hear about your dad, iii. Glad for him that it was sudden, and it sounds like the right decisions were taken. The patient always needs a strong and determined advocate in that situation, because the medical crew will always be conservative. I found myself in that position when my father was dying.
I hope your mother will be OK. 28520. judithathome - 2/24/2015 9:21:47 PM You all did the right thing, 3i...he knew. 28521. judithathome - 2/24/2015 9:23:43 PM Robert...we had a nasty day yesterday but it's all melting today...if Keoni COULD, he would be at the golf course with one of those huge blowers, drying out the grounds.
He's going crazy, being confined. 28522. wabbit - 2/24/2015 10:22:37 PM My condolences to you and your family, iiibbb. 28523. Trillium - 2/25/2015 1:57:47 AM Wishing you and your family well, iiibbb. 28524. arkymalarky - 3/5/2015 5:15:14 AM What's happening your way Judith? We're out of school tomorrow. It's ice now. It was lots of rain before. 28525. Ms. No - 3/5/2015 11:20:16 PM Condolences, i3b3. We know all our lives that this grief is coming someday, but that doesn't diminish it in the least. Be well. 28526. lemwalker - 3/16/2015 7:16:20 PM am alive and well. Have found library has 'puters to use. Been a year since gave up being on line. It is after all a fee country, ( R was a misprint), and my pocket ain't that deep. Glad to see the old names, though I have never seen the faces. Bottom line; am not living high on the hog but am out of the mud. Be back again someday. Lem 28527. arkymalarky - 3/16/2015 7:20:55 PM LEM!!! 28528. iiibbb - 3/16/2015 9:43:42 PM buying a house... made a bid... they took it.
Trying to decide whether to let the $1000 earnest money go and make a bid on a farmhouse that needs an addition and remodel for us to fit, but has 1.5 acres in the city.
First house... ready to go except for some minor remodels; lots of neighbors with kids, best for the geriatric cat, good room sizes, lots of storage..... postage stamp lawn (0.3 ac) and not a ton of privacy.
Farm house... 1.5 acres with a house with access to hiking and $70,000 less. Old house with old house issues. Livable, but we don't fit and it needs a comprehensive remodel and addition to work for us. 1 neighbor who is nice. Privacy in spades. It would be great.
X-factor.... how long are we going to be here? If my job goes away in 3 or 4 years and we have to leave would all the work we put into a dream house be for naught? The first home is probably easier to turn over and they took our bid which is $5 per sq foot under comps. If things become secure here... there will be other "dreams" that pop up I think.
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