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28689. arkymalarky - 7/23/2015 6:07:41 PM True. And he didn't really need it more than just getting concerned about how he felt, I think. He had zero debt, good retirement, and t-drop money from teaching (a lot). His wife will be fine financially. But he must have felt something he didn't share with anyone to have blood sugar that high and that made him act atypically from what he ever had. 28690. judithathome - 7/23/2015 8:37:21 PM Well, I am just a fan of getting life insurance while young and healthy. Amazing how much it adds up over the years...for very little strain on one's budget. 28691. vonKreedon - 7/24/2015 3:05:41 AM So sorry for your family's loss, Arky. 28692. arkymalarky - 7/24/2015 4:01:46 AM Thank you Vk! 28693. Ms. No - 7/25/2015 7:07:40 PM Arky,
I can only imagine how devastated Stan must be. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. 28694. arkymalarky - 7/25/2015 7:40:08 PM Thank you, dear No. Stan has been so touched by everyone. 28695. thoughtful - 7/29/2015 1:40:34 PM Arky, I'm so sorry for your loss. There's never an easy way to go...suddenly is harder on the family, slowly is harder on the person. But you must not let Stan blame himself. As one who has lost 3 immediate family members to suicide, I know about self blame. But I recognize that a moment is made up of a million tiny choices and random acts made over generations that lead to that specific outcome, and that no one person has the power to alter the consequence of all those decisions and random events. Instead we must accept the reality of what is, that it was meant to be as it is. Each and every meaningful event becomes a pathway to the future....our intended future.
I've found what Rumi said about suffering to be helpful, at least for me where I am now. "Don't turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That's where the light enters you."
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. 28696. judithathome - 7/29/2015 5:23:15 PM Beautifully expressed, Thoughtful. 28697. thoughtful - 7/29/2015 6:28:26 PM Thank you, J@h. Unfortunately, life has made me somewhat expert in grief. 28698. judithathome - 7/29/2015 7:08:21 PM I hear you....but I think MY heart has been somewhat hardened. 28699. arkymalarky - 7/29/2015 11:01:02 PM What a beautiful and helpful post Thoughtful! Stan read it and it really means a lot people who have been there sharing what helped them. Thank you! 28700. arkymalarky - 7/30/2015 1:03:06 AM We're at the Colorado cabin processing everything and preparing to dive into a lot of new responsibilities when we get home. 28701. thoughtful - 7/30/2015 12:15:40 PM but I think MY heart has been somewhat hardened
Now that is a reason for grieving.... 28702. thoughtful - 8/4/2015 4:20:15 PM I don't remember who or when, but oh so many years ago, someone posted a pic of this beautiful room on the water I think in Vancouver. Anyway I can find it again without searching through decades of posts? 28703. arkymalarky - 8/4/2015 5:25:16 PM www.priceypads.com/modern-contemporary-masterpiece-24800000/
I'm sure not it, but closest I came on a Google search, & I thought it was so pretty I just posted it. 28704. arkymalarky - 8/4/2015 5:26:15 PM If you scroll down the lane, every view in that place is water almost. 28705. arkymalarky - 8/4/2015 5:26:31 PM Down the link 28706. thoughtful - 8/5/2015 12:44:10 AM Thanks, Arky, but this was a room you could stay in like a hotel...don't remember if it was a separate cabin as part of a complex, but I think it was...all I remember was how gorgeous it was. I have a friend with $$$$ who is taking the family to the pacific NW and if I could find it, I'd recommend it to her. 28707. robertjayb - 8/5/2015 8:40:56 PM Thanks to wabbit for the password. One more rescue of the memory-challenged geezer.
Sympathy for your trials, Arky, Glad you got to Colorado and hope it is a comforting break.
We are late to Wisconsin this year due to minor but time consuming medical stuff. Nothing critical but two hernia repairs within a month makes for a sore belly.
Pleased to be here. 56-degrees this morning.
Later on I'll post about a scheme for an early October meetup to pay off our football wager.
28708. arkymalarky - 8/6/2015 2:41:35 AM Yay! Can't wait!
Colorado did help, but we didn't get to stay very long.
Sounds like Wisconsin is to you what Colorado is to us. We went from highs in the 70s to highs in the triple digits. Slept with the low fifties with no ac and it was fantastic. I hope when I am finally retired to do like you all and stay out there for months instead of weeks when it's so wretchedly hot in the south.
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