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38. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 7:36:26 PM
Jesus.
I can't believe it.
I've run into someone more immature than me. 39. God - 9/17/1999 7:39:05 PM 1029. God - 9/18/99 4:07:15 AM
'I'm not trying to hold back progress. I'm just trying to slow things down.'
Hmmm. Anybody else know what the hell she's saying?
1031. God - 9/18/99 4:15:18 AM
Incidentally, I find the ostensible excuse to ban my moniker (to avoid offending newbies) pretty pathetic coming from someone who envisions 5-10 new Moties PER YEAR.
And I'm also tired of people impugning my motives for choosing this handle. It was this sort of mind-reading that caused the meltdown in the first place.
1032. God - 9/18/99 4:17:06 AM
I've also conceded that there is a de facto ruling clique around here, for the most part, they behave like one. Those few 'rebels' who think they can run the show and still prance around, mouthing off like idiots are the ones who will have to choose one or the other.
1058. God - 9/18/99 5:30:45 AM
Nope. CalGal has made it VERY clear that the RoE ONLY apply to the Mote and that anyone who thinks otherwise is an idiot. I can find the pertinent post in the playpen for you if you like.
1074. God - 9/18/99 5:42:59 AM
Ace
What are you, deaf, must I quote my favorite person on the planet, the most valuable contributor to this forum, and my personal hero, Cal Gal, very well:
CG
God,
No, all we have to do is ban mention of personal information in this forum. Which we do, in the RoE.
Me
Cal
So I can email the information to whoever I want, I just can't type it in here? And it doesn't matter if the person I'm talking about is a Motie or not? Interesting policy.
CG
What are you, an idiot? All that matters to The Mote is what information is displayed within its "walls". 40. God - 9/17/1999 7:45:22 PM Way to kill a reasonably enjoyable (if unproductive) discussion. Night all.
==):-) 41. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 7:52:51 PM
Revised, proposed RoE statement:
Revealing an anonymous poster's real-name, or the address or other confidential information (sexual history, state of health, etc.) about any poster, constitutes the most serious violation of the Rules of Engagement. Deliberately, knowingly revealing such information will result in immediate, lengthy suspensions or permanent bannings, depending on the sensitivity of the information revealed. Even inadvertant, non-malicious revelations may be cause for banning, if the violations are repeated.
Note: Ciphers, codes, word-games, rhymes, and "hints" about such information is considered to be a revelation, and subject to the same penalties. Revealing such information on another Forum or web-site is also grounds for permanent banning. 42. God - 9/17/1999 7:59:46 PM You could start by spelling inadvertent correctly, Dillweed.
Night, Shooter.
==):-) 43. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 8:14:01 PM
Notes to Jay:
The above form of the proposed rules is pretty simple. I'm not sure how much simpler they could be and still make it clear that God's various hypotheticals, and the earlier violations, are off-limits.
You may object to the penalties I suggest. Yes, they are harsh. If that's your objection, please say so.
In support of harsh penalties, I would argue that we are only talking about the stiffest penalties for deliberate revelations of the most sensitive information (name, address). Since such a penalty will only be imposed in DELIBERATE cases, and people will be forewarned of this, what's your objection, precisely, to imposing such a penalty?
Posters have, after all, the power to NOT post such information. Their victims, however, must live with the consequences of what a violator has done. I, for one, see no problem imposing such a tough penatly on what is the worst offense you can commit on-line.
44. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 8:14:28 PM
I understand that those posting under their real names don't think this is a big deal. Fine. I understand that. But step out of your shoes and into others' shoes. Christin, VonKreedon, me, Cal, and others all wish to retain our anonymity. Is it such a blow to free expression (or whatever theory you base your recalcitrance on) to impose harsh penalties on those who reveal the identities of anonymous posters? Would you like it if someone posted your parents' names and addresses, or your home and business telephone numbers, on-line?
What if you were a closeted gay and someone outed you publicly? (Combine that with publishing your real name.)
You may say anybody can get that information. Perhaps so. But the fact that there are some people who will go through the trouble of digging up private information on you is hardly a reason not to punish the open publication of such information on-line.
Once again, if we make it clear that this is the most serious violation possible (and, of course, threats are fairly implausible UNLESS people have made your private information available), what is the objection to just telling people, don't do it, or you will be banned from three months (lesser violation) to permanently (full name, and/or address etc.)?
I suggest that the publication of such information on-line makes its victims very uncomfortable. CalGal has a lot of enemies, and now she has to worry that someone might look her up. Likely? Not particularly. But why should she "just deal" with that worry?
If the posters of such information do so-- as I suggest-- to permanently decrease someone's sense of security, what is the problem, exactly, with permanently revoking their posting privileges?
45. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 8:14:39 PM
Note I mean this all pro-actively. I still submit that what has gone before should be punished severely, but one can agree with these rules and yet still insist, if one wants, that previous infractions should be let go by the wayside. Please don't let your feelings about a past infraction keep you from acceeding to rules for future conduct. 46. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 8:24:22 PM
And let us consider the penalty scale:
We've talked about temporary suspensions for abusive behavior and what not. Two days, five days, a month, permanent.
Such light penalties may make sense when we're talking about people using the word "motherfucker" too many times in a civil thread or whatnot. No one suffers any permanent harm from being called a "douchebag." (If you want to call this self-serving, fine; increase THESE penalties too if you like.) The harm (disruption of the discussion) is temporary, "healable," and, if I may say, fairly trivial.
Revealing someone's personal information on-line is NOT TEMPORARY. It cannot be "healed." Once that information is out there, it is OUT THERE forever. And it is not trivial.
So, to me at least, it seems ridiculous to penalize these sorts of offenses on the same scale that you're going to penalize spamming or abusive language on. I submit that a one-week or two-week suspension is just fine for me if I go off into a Tourettes' tornado and ruin everybody's discussion one night. The penalty (two weeks) fits the violation (one night of ruined discussion).
It does not make sense to penalize someone for a week-- a week!-- for PERMANENTLY outing information someone intended to keep private.
Ban Ace for two weeks, and you've got your civil forum back. But where, exactly, does CalGal go to get her anonymity back? Can you give it back to her? I know that dozens of people copied the post before Res (belatedly) deleted it. That cute code is out there for good. 47. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 8:27:52 PM
Once again, please excuse the reference to CalGal. I do not mean to conflate past violations with future policy; I use her only as a concrete example of what I'm talking about.
There is nothing inconsistent with enacting these rules proactively and treating past violations differently. You know my opinion on that score; but you are free to hold another. 48. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 8:32:55 PM
And suffice to say: In the case of revealing information, it makes no sense to issue a "warning" first. There is no need for a warning.
When two people are arguing, it may be the case that someone doesn't know when they've stepped over a subjective line, and in that case it may make sense to issue a warning (except in really serious cases, where immediate action may be taken).
No one needs a "warning" to know that revealing personal information is wrong. This is not "subjective" or a matter of taste or one's boundaries for civility. We ALL KNOW you're not allowed to do it.
So what is the purpose of begining with a warning? To warn someone not to do something they already knew they weren't supposed to do? To give them "one free bite at the apple"? What? 49. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 8:35:08 PM
To give them "one free shot at outing someone"?
In that case, aren't you telling people it's just okely dokely to out one person? Can I save my one free outing, so when I'm in a really heated conversation with someone, I can cash in my chit, expose his real name and address, and then take my "warning" like a man and promise, "Oh, sure, won't do that again. But it was sure fun to see my opponent freak out when I dropped the bomb on him! Whoo-hoo!" 50. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 8:40:42 PM
Errata post 48:
When two people are arguing, it may be the case that someone doesn't know when they've stepped over a subjective line of abusiveness or incivility, and in that case it may make sense to issue a warning (except in really serious cases, where immediate action may be taken).
51. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 9:03:06 PM
Jesus. I can talk a blue streak, can't I?
Earlier, Jay, you told me that if I wanted to protect my privacy, I just shouldn't ladel out private information about myself. Will that protect me?
In another debate, when we were debating pseudonyms versus real names, you told me that I shouldn't worry about my privacy, because anyone could get such information if they know how to do it and have the determination.
So which is it? Either one statement is true or the other statement is true; it can't be that one is true when you want it to be, and the other is true when you want that statement to be.
And if the latter statement is true-- which I suspect it is-- I really can't just guarantee my own privacy by "just not revealing information about myself," now can I? And in that case, I certainly need protection against other people outing sensitive information on-line, yes?
Let's consider who posts here (nobody takes any offense):
We have people who flirt with each other. Some of these people either have girlfriends or wives. Some people may do more than flirt.
We have people who are gay or have admitted to youthful homosexual experiences.
I'm glad that Jay, Dan, Pelle, etc., engage in no on-line behavior for which they would want anonymity, and have nothing whatsoever to hide from spouses, friends of spouses, girlfriends, parents, co-workers, and bosses. But some of us don't quite live up to that ideal. Some of us have secrets which we've only divulged on-line, under an alias.
And for that reason, some of us may prefer anonymity. And some of us, for those reasons or others, may have very good reasons for wanting to keep our identities private.
So please stop calling this all a "silly concern." If it's a silly concern for you, fine. But stop assuming that YOUR particular circumstance is the same circumstance shared by everyone else. 52. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 9:13:43 PM
Eeesh. Sorry about that ending. But I do get the feeling from various people that I "should just lighten up about it." Pelle, for one, said so almost explicitly.
I don't much want to "lighten up about it." No one knows my circumstance, no one knows if I'm having a wild homosexual affair with Niner. No one knows my reasons for preferring anonymity, and, quite frankly, they really shouldn't be demanding that I explain to them why I prefer anonymity. 53. JayAckroyd - 9/17/1999 9:39:57 PM The current language seems longer than what was posted earlier, and I don't see how you can regulate behavior outside of this environment. But I'm okay with the intent. I'd drop the note.
On the justification for this, I've tried really hard to take these concerns seriously.
On my "if you're really worried about privacy, don't tell people things" I stand by that. Yes, it's true, you don't have as much privacy as you may think, but why make it easy, if you're worried about it? Seems to me that folks who want to have relationships outside of the forum and are also trying to preserve their privacy inside the forum are trying to have it both ways. The folks you have outside-the-forum relationships with may have outside-the-forum relationships with other moties. The forum can't regulate those interactions.
That means you're still gonna have troubles with what is and is not public information about the individual. I do object to the harshness of the penalties, not because they're harsh, but because I expect most violations not to be clear violations. If you make the penalties too harsh, murky violations will be passed over, and you'll start muttering about insiders, cabals, and will try to start email campaigns.
Finally, I have to note that there would be no problem, with inappropriate monikers or outing pseudonymns, if we didn't allow handles. I reiterate my understanding that allowing handles is a consensus view. 54. AdamSelene - 9/17/1999 9:45:18 PM I think I like the way this is evolving.
1) Censoring should be based on civility and style, not content. (In addition to the 'outings' which should be aggressively banned, as we seem to be in agreement on except for the minor detail of appropriate punishment.) The 'abusive' standard is the right one for most censoring and can be painlessly handled by moving posts to a new thread like this one or to the Playpen. Nice set of solutions - who's not happy with it?
2) There HAS to be strong authority to do the censoring defined above - primarily, thread hosts. For backup and for times when a host's decision to leave something stand is appealed, a trio or so of meta-hosts is the right number and should be enough to cover the timezones. Note that I said a host's decision to leave something stand - a host's decision to delete or move something should be much harder to overturn. Posters can always find pleasant ways to restate their points if they don't like what's been censored. The only override here would be if a meta-host determined that ideas were being blocked instead of some abusive style or inappropriate outing.
It's been implied that lack of responses to a poster means that they're being ignored. I hope that's not true - I would like to think that everyone mostly just agrees with me and just doesn't have any improvement to make... ;-) Plus the fact that I tend not to address anyone in particular - I think of this more as a community of ideas than personalities (in general, but with lots of exceptions,) although I realize that I'm pretty unusual in this regard. Oh well. 55. JayAckroyd - 9/17/1999 9:46:10 PM Ace--
Nobody's demanded you explain why you want anonymity. But you just outed niner's gender, and implied something about his sexual preference. Was that public information? In context, I read that as sarcasm and parody. But if someone else commented on their supposed liaison with niner, wouldn't you object? And doesn't your message potentially violate the sexual history part of your rule in 41?
I like the language in 37 better, IAC.
56. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 9:47:05 PM
I have to note that there would be no problem, with inappropriate monikers or outing pseudonymns, if we didn't allow handles.
Yes, there would be. If everyone knows someone's name, they could STILL post home phone numbers, addresses, place of business, sexual history, HIV status, previous mental health problems, etc.
I don't want that shit on line. Even if you go by your own name, would you like it very much if I outed something I knew about you? Ever cheated on a wife? Ever have a gay experience? Would you like to see a child's school's name posted on-line?
It's possible someone could recognize the name "Jay Ackroyd" and post something nasty. A name is just one kind of information that shouldn't be published on-line. Since I take it you'd object to all the other bits of info being posted, why are you so adverse to letting me have ONE MORE little piece of information I'd like to keep private?
57. Ace of Spades - 9/17/1999 9:48:18 PM
But you just outed niner's gender, and implied something about his sexual preference. Was that public information?
It's a joke. He's straight (allegedly) and I make jokes like this. He's never objected before. He will not object now.
Don't drag this down onto a silly level.
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